I’m home.

For a while in college I had post-it notes on my mirror each containing a question to which the answer was always in flux.

“Who are you?”

“Where are you going?”

“Where is home?”

The last one never changed.  Home to me was always my parents’ house.  This was true whether I lived in Springfield, Wichita, Fayetteville, or Columbus.

Now I’m in Lawrence, KS and that question finally has a new answer.  But JT, you’re hypothetically asking in order for me to make my point, you’ve been in Lawrence for one day and already you’re calling it home?  Isn’t that jumping the gun just a little bit.

No, it’s not.  Because it occurs to me that home is not a place, I think.  My parents’ house was my home because that’s where my family lives.  Without them, the sleepy town in Arkansas where I grew up would have no more emotional significance to me than any other dot on a map.  Home was my parents, not their house.  Lawrence feels very much the same.  It feels like my home for the past 30 years because Michaelyn is here.  And wherever we go after this, that will be home.

Nobody but climate scientists knows what the future will bring.  But for now, at this moment, I’m home.

About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.

  • Anna Marin

    :-) I know exactly what you mean. Congrats to you both and best wishes

  • baal

    Grats on getting there!

    “Who are you?”<–I don't have (and never did) any trouble with this one. Otherfolks have mentioned that I behave differently depending on who I am with, to which I reply, yes that's right. ;p YMMV.

  • ufo42

    Congratulations on having a solid relationship. Condolences on having to live in Lawrence, KS! :)

  • Kyle


    Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros – Home

    You’re post brought this song to mind, a personal fav of mine. :)

  • wfenza

    Hah, I was just about to post that same Edward Sharpe song.

  • Savoy47

    Welcome Home JT!

  • Richard Seese

    Home will always be where your heart is the most. A couple walls and a few doors and a few windows is not home.