Fix the family: six ways to say a woman needs to be at home making babies.

Here is an article from Fix the Family, a Catholic organization, on the six reasons you shouldn’t send your daughter to college.  It’s long and must really be read to be believed.  My favorite comment on the article was this one, which pretty much sums up the whole piece:

So, please, what is an 18yo girl to do then? Bag groceries till a prince charming comes along to give a few kids?

That pretty much sums up the whole article.  Although, Kaorus Negisa had a pretty good one on my facebook when I posted this article:

“You believe in oppressing women. False. The Church teaches that husbands and wives are of equal dignity, but with different roles.” And women’s role just happens to be to be told what to do by men. See? Totes not oppression at all! God is so dreamy.

It’s just horrible.  Ironically, it starts off by boasting of how logically airtight the coming arguments are:

…the rejection we receive is always emotionally charged and ends up insulting, since once explained logically, the opposition runs out of substance and is only left to hurl insults and presume and misconstrue this practical wisdom into some chauvinistic evil.

Here are some choice excerpts (but really, they only scratch the surface):

College and education have very little to do with each other.  College has become more of a training ground for a job.  Let’s be clear:  college graduates receive a diploma, not necessarily an education.  Many wise people in years past obtained great educations by seeking knowledge from books and good material.  Today, anyone can learn anything they want with the vast library system across the country and with the easy access of the internet.  So the real reason girls go to college is for a degree, not an education.  I strongly believe girls and women should be educated, first and foremost in the Catholic faith.  If we look COMPREHENSIVELY at the Catholic doctrine, we’ll see very little that promotes a woman working outside the home.

If college is so useless, why is the title of the piece “6 Reasons not to Send Your Child to College”?  The message seems to be that college doesn’t provide an education, so only your sons should waste four years of their lives.

We believe in women making wise prudent choices for themselves.  The indoctrination of the feminist culture and the practicing of a sexually promiscuous lifestyle severely cloud, practically blind that good judgment.

Yes, even though having consistent sex has been shown numerous times to contribute greatly to good psychological health (what with it being a huge part of our biology and all), ignoring the relevant science and abstaining from a perfectly enjoyable experience (unless you’ve gone through the proper, church-appointed ritual) because a guy who rose from the dead 2,000 years ago will be mad is the very embodiment of good judgment.  Makes sense.

The very next few sentences are:

Getting a college degree often makes a young lady feel an “obligation” to use it, to make money.  Often her husband doesn’t want to see it go to “waste.”  So the degree is what actually traps her.  Not having a degree frees her to enter into a marriage with proper roles in which her husband will provide for her and their children.  Christian marriage by definition does place her in a submissive role to her husband, but no one forces anyone to marry anyone.  She should go to the altar with full knowledge of what she’s entering into.

We believe in women making choices for themselves, as long as they’re choosing to be a stay-at-home mom.  If they go getting degrees like men, they might think they could be the bread-winners or even, *gasp*, that they don’t want children – and those are choices Fix the Family doesn’t like.  When they say “Fix the Family” I think they mean “fix” as a synonym to what you do with your cats and dogs…

The most mind-boggling reason (which is saying something for this article) was number 3:

She will not learn to be a wife and mother.  Nothing that is taught in a college curriculum is geared toward domestic homemaking.

Which, of course, is what all women want to do.  You might as well point out that majoring in music won’t provide you with knowledge of astrophysics.  So fucking what?  Not every person is interested in the same stuff.

Do you women who don’t go to college attend some magical other school that teaches them about being a wife and mother?  You know how to be a wife?  Don’t change.  Just be the same person the dude fell in love with such that he wanted to marry you in the first place.  There’s no one proper way to be a wife, since we all have different things that make us happy/fall in love.

And as for being a mother, kids don’t come with instruction manuals.  It’s something you learn as you go, and women who attend college are able to read the same parenting books as women who didn’t.  In fact, women who attend college are probably going to be better at finding books with reliable information, since that is a skill you pick up in college.

Reason #4 isn’t much better:

The cost of a degree is becoming more difficult to recoup.  Like anything that is subsidized by the government, the cost of a college degree is inflated.  That being the case, it can often be difficult or impossible to get an adequate payoff for the investment.  The most common example of that scenario is the job of a school teacher.  More commonly now we’re seeing situations where not only is the income not enough to support a family, but many are strapped with student loan debt.  Add to that the possibility of not even being able to get a job with the degree and you have economic disaster for a family before they even get started.  It makes much more sense for a young couple to have a husband with a skill that brings value to the marketplace that has reasonable compensation to go along with it and a wife who is willing to be frugal especially during the early years of starting their family.

That sounds like a terrible idea!  So terrible that only men should get to enjoy it.

The whole article is ridiculous.

About JT Eberhard

When not defending the planet from inevitable apocalypse at the rotting hands of the undead, JT is a writer and public speaker about atheism, gay rights, and more. He spent two and a half years with the Secular Student Alliance as their first high school organizer. During that time he built the SSA’s high school program and oversaw the development of groups nationwide. JT is also the co-founder of the popular Skepticon conference and served as the events lead organizer during its first three years.


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