Doug Phillips, megapastor of Vision Forum Ministries, loves marriage. He really wants to protect its sanctity. It’s between one man and one woman not, say, one man and two women. He also doesn’t like the idea of marriage equality. He even thinks Sarah Palin is too pro-gay. He thinks allowing same-sex people to marry violates the sanctity of his marriage…somehow. Here’s what he had to say about it last year when Obama came out in support of gay marriage:
The process began with the Bush presidencies and their toleration for homosexuality. It was advanced in full by the Clinton Administration. It has now reached its logical zenith under Obama. So we should not be surprised by the official announcement that the President of the United States of America has finally declared to the world his opposition to the historical, common law and biblical meaning of marriage. President Obama may be remembered for many things, but few are as fundamental in its treason to his countrymen, to his oath of office and to the living God, than his decision to use the presidency to redefine a definition of marriage that was established on Day Six of Creation and has been the benchmark of civilization for 6,000 years.
Mark your calendars—May 9, 2012, the President of the United States of America finally crossed a line from which there is no return without repudiation and repentance. Terrorists are dangerous. The economy is a real and present danger. But there is simply nothing other than the holocaust of the unborn which imperils the safety of our country or places our people in jeopardy as does the leader of the Western world publicly raising his fist at the Heavens and declaring that the bedrock institution of society, ordained of God and meant to be protected by the state, is little more than a convention of convenience for the children of Sodom to transform the meaning of something which is precious to Jesus Christ and a living picture of His love for the Church, into a legally protected justification for perversion, and vehicle of hatred aimed directly at that love.
Marriage is sacred! If that sanctity is not protected, it’s calamity along the lines of…
You get the point…and I’m pretty sure you know where this is going. Even though Phillips is big on preserving the sanctity of his marriage, and the marriages of all other people who are in it for one man and one woman (not one man and two women, for instance), look who just had to resign his position for…wait for it…cheating on his wife.
You know, I’m not one to wish ill of my enemies. But for all the misery Phillips’ actions have brought to gay people everywhere, I might allow myself a moment, just a moment, to enjoy seeing him miserable. Blame god, for he invented shadenfreude along with the delight of seeing a person repaid in part for their transgressions.
There are no words to describe the magnitude of shame I feel, or grief from the injury I caused my beloved bride and children, both of whom have responded to my repentance with what seems a supernatural love and forgiveness.
And don’t think that I look down on Doug Phillips for being attracted to, even loving, another person. I don’t. It’s human to be attracted to many people and to love many people deeply is another human compulsion. No, what fills me with contempt for Doug Phillips is the hypocrisy, and the attempt to take ownership over the lives of others. That because Doug Phillips elects to deny a portion of his own humanity that other people must be expected to deny theirs. This is what makes me smile when he caves into that part of his own human nature he has strongly implied must not exist. Then I know he’s aware of how it feels for others, and I pity him all the more as he tries to run away from it again.
I do sympathize greatly with his wife and children. To be lied to by someone you love is difficult, as I’m sure we all know. But at least his marriage can go on being sacred, because a relationship between one man and one woman tainted by dishonesty is far more worthy to god than a marriage of pure honesty between two men or two women. Gender, apparently, means more to god than honesty.
Which makes god about as pitiable as Doug Phillips.