I certainly learned many toxic and harmful ideas growing up. Some were from Catholicism, some were from the media, some were from people I met. Some of these messages we are exposed to can take years to unlearn and that is assuming we become aware of them and actually want to change!
Once I started realizing how much inequality there is in the world, I wanted to try and do my part to correct it. This meant I had to self-reflect on many ideas and values I had. Some were easier to get rid of than others, but I know it’s going to be a constant process of learning and unlearning as I try to be the best advocate for social justice that I can.
So when I see someone claim they find the process of social justice advocacy easy, I become very skeptical.
I actually had a former Facebook friend claim that they never said or even thought anything bigoted. They said they only learned new ways to improve their social justice advocacy, but never had to unlearn any toxic ideas.