I remember being so crushed when this woman told me she didn’t want to date me anymore. It wasn’t just sadness, I actually felt entitled to dating her. I was angry she wouldn’t “give me a chance.” Even when she told me she wasn’t interested, I still kept trying to change her mind. It was wrong and unacceptable.
Coming to realize this was very hard. I always thought I was a “good guy” as many people like to think of themselves as generally positive. However, I had some pretty awful ideas about relationships and having those ideas created strong dissonance between being a good person.
Feeling entitled to women’s attention or their bodies is a toxic idea that infects many men in our world. It’s a learned behavior and not our fault that we are exposed to such terrible messages. However, it is on us to try and become aware of it and do better. Yes, anyone can feel entitled to anyone else, but we do see a lot of messages of men feeling entitled to women.
That is all unacceptable. People should always respect other’s boundaries. Full stop. If someone says they are not interested, we should move on. We are not entitled to them and they don’t owe us anything.