A pastor sits down in a counseling session. One spouse verbally abuses the other, gaslights and shouts at them. The abused spouse attempts to protect themselves, stand up for themselves and maintain appropriate boundaries. At which point the abusive spouse calls foul and accuses the abused of being the abuser.
The pastor, from the sideline, says, “Hey you two, you’re so polarized. Can’t you both just follow the golden rule?”
That’s a mini-parable that summarizes my reaction to the recent press releases on Golden Rule 2020: A Call for Respect and Dignity in Politics.
It’s like that infamous quote from Donald Trump after violence in Charlottesville, “You have very fine people on both sides.”
These kinds of calls for moderation aren’t surprising from religious leaders. Faith communities are fairly notorious for their attempts to remain in a kind of milquetoast middle. But such appeals become deeply problematic when they protect those abusing power and increase the vulnerability of others harmed by such abuse.
I can remember a moment a few years back. I was sitting in the district office of a certain congressman. When we sought better support and protection for vulnerable refugee populations, his response was, “You all live in REALITY. I live in POLITICAL reality.”
Nevermind what was the best thing to do to care for refugees. He had to be politically expedient.
What the congressman meant by the statement was straightforward. He couldn’t just do the right thing, because he has to do what will get him re-elected next term. That’s political reality.
Unfortunately, Golden Rule 2020 is an example of church leaders living in ecclesial political reality. Their call for “civility” is not about doing the right thing. It’s about not losing voters and maintaining the status quo (which in the church context is members all kind of getting along because of their general lack of truth-speaking).
Faith leaders are under the illusion that the most faithful thing to do is to keep as large (if nevertheless dwindling) a community together at the moderate middle as they can.
Golden Rule 2020 is a theology of glory, not a theology of the cross. It calls the bad good, and the good bad.
It fails at the command to let your yes be yes and your no be no (Matthew 5:37). Instead, it tells the community of faith, and apparently everybody else, that they should soften their “no” by building a codependent Golden Bridge.
Golden Rule 2020 redefines the gospel as “equivocation.”
Also… it just gets Jesus wrong, on many levels.
I mean, the Jesus who said “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” also called the Pharisees and Saduccees a “brood of vipers.” This Jesus said he came to cause divisions, at every level, right down to individual households.
“For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household (Matthew 10:35).
Jesus didn’t speak in such divisive ways out of sheer antagonistic demagoguery. No, he spoke this way because he knew the truth he was bringing, the kin-dom he was announcing, would naturally be resisted by those in authority, those with wealth, those with power.Jesus might say in the context of Golden Rule 2020: “Whoever loves civility more than me cannot be my disciple.”
In a world where the president of the United States rage tweets 20-30 times per day, to such an extent that the New York Times issues a special report on his tweets, the majority of which are attacks, how in the world did the leaders of churches decide the most important statement for them to make was to get everyone to follow the Golden Rule?
Now, admittedly, we do have to find ways to speak the truth in love. I’m reminded of Michelle Obama’s statement, “When they go low, we go high.”
The thing about her statement… she still acknowledges that “they” go “low.” That’s truth. The Golden Rule 2020 initiative isn’t even willing to acknowledge that some in our political discourse are going low. Instead, it’s a broad-brush hand-slap of all parties.
So what do I wish these bishops and religious leaders would be calling for from all of us in 2020?
How about an actual theology of the cross?
Let’s try a re-write. In their appeal, they asked for these two items:
1) pray for the healing of the divisions in our country, and 2) promote the use of the Golden Rule in our own political discussions and election activities in 2020.
I suggest these instead:
1) pray that God’s kin-dom come on earth as it is in heaven, 2) promote always speaking the truth, whatever the cost, in our political discussions and election activities in 2020.
Point the finger in the right direction. Tell us specifically who is the one abusing. Name the abuses of power. Don’t issues statements that are quivering codependent scolds posing as faithfulness. Stand with those being harmed.
Finally, I thought I’d look and see if any of the ELCA’s social statements call for us to be “civil.” Looking at the social statement most likely to address this issue, Church in Society, I did a quick search. The word “civility” doesn’t even appear in the document. Neither does the term “Golden Rule.”
However, I did find statements like this: “As a prophetic presence, this church has the obligation to name and denounce the idols before which people bow, to identify the power of sin present in social struc- tures, and to advocate in hope with poor and powerless people.”
Also this: “Christians need to be concerned for the methods and the content of public delib- eration. They should be critical when groups of people are inadequately repre- sented in political processes and decisions that affect their lives.”
It’s a long document, but those are pretty indicative of the general trend.
In other words, Golden Rule 2020 encourages essentially the opposite of our own social statement. It will have the net result of silencing voices currently speaking prophetically in our church, while those idols they are denouncing will simply ignore what they see as another diatribe from the politically correct liberals.
There are many in our church and world who are saying, “The emperor has no clothes.”
Our bishops just said, “Shush, it’s not nice to say that.”