Brock Turner is a monster, he raped a passed out girl at a college party, and then was let off with a slap on the wrist by a judge who didn’t want to ruin the man’s future.
Yet, if you ask Patheos Catholic blogger Melinda Selmys, about Turner, she says is likely “a normal guy,” who is also “a rapist.”
She is careful to try to avoid sounding like she is blaming the victim, but by excusing a rapists actions, you are then in turn, blaming the victim.
She believes telling “boys” that not the best way to not rape someone is to, well, not rape someone, is actually wrong and blames our culture of “drinking” and “casual sex” for his actions.
“The problem being that casual sex is almost invariably sex between two people who are drunk,” she writes.
This argument assumes that not only is drinking involved but excessive drinking. It assumes people can’t go to a bar, meet, share a few drinks and decided they would like to have sex. No, according to Selmys, “Seeking sex from strangers is awkward. Most people cannot do it sober. Every person I’ve ever known who has engaged in promiscuity used alcohol to lower their inhibitions.”
Great anecdotal evidence there. I would bet that alcohol could play a small role in making people feel more comfortable with each other, more open in their discussions and perhaps even more open to hooking up when they may not normally. This does not, in any way change what Turner did.
Turner did not share a few drinks, take a girl home and sleep with her. She was passed out, unconscious, and he raped her. Yet, Selmys wants to argue he is not a monster.
She goes on to say that it’s “possible that he is just a normal college kid who got caught up in alcohol and promiscuity – just like he says he is. It’s possible that he started out having sexual encounters that were pretty clearly consensual, and then he had some that were less clearly consensual, but the girls were cool with it in the morning so he figured that his behaviour had been okay. It’s possible that he thought this girl was sending off signals, that when she left the party with him she was implicitly agreeing to sex.”
Okay, let’s say, for arguments sake they left the party, in agreement that they would go somewhere to have sex. Her passing out negates all of that. When she can no longer be an active participant in the sexual encounter, her possible consent goes out the door.
However, the victim does not even remember meeting Turner. Does that mean she didn’t? No, does that mean she didn’t consent? No, but consent does not mean, again, that passing out drunk, black out drunk, continues the prior consent. It’s doubtful her consent was to be abused behind a dumpster while unconscious.
In closing out her rape apologist argument, Selmys says Turner should not be fully accountable for his own actions because he was drunk.
“The assumption is that rape is always a deliberate, sober choice made by men who habitually feel entitled to women’s bodies. It ignores the fact that drinking reduces a person’s ability to make good judgment calls, that it depresses rational thinking and increases disordered passions, that drunk people often feel entitled to have their desires gratified in ways that they don’t while sober,” she says.
By this very argument, a drunk driver is not a monster when they kill people by getting behind the wheel of their car. They had too much to drink and couldn’t make good choices. Yes, a perfectly seemingly good person who volunteers at an orphanage can drink too much and kill someone. We don’t turn around and excuse the killing and pretend they are not a murderer.
And yes, rape is deliberate. You are violating someone’s body. Not accidently, you didn’t accidently take off your pants and insert your penis in them. You deliberately carried out that act.
Drinking comes with responsibility.
The victim made the decision to drink, and likely, to drink a lot. Yet, she didn’t turn around and assault someone. Brock Turner made the decision to drink that night too. He also drank a lot, but enough to stay conscious, enough to lure the victim outside, or even possibly carry her outside, and rape her behind a dumpster.
His level of intoxication is not excusable. Becuase we know one thing. The victim was unconscious, found half naked, non-responsive. Had she not been found, she could have died laying there behind a dumpster. Would we be worried about his future swimming career then?
Would his father call a murder conviction to strong for “20 minutes of action”?
When we discuss rape culture, this is what we are talking about. A culture that says women who are drunk and get raped are to blame for their own rape. Boys who get drunk and rape someone can’t be responsible for their actions because they are drunk.
Sorry, Melinda Selmys, but Brock Turner is a monster because he is a rapist.