3. Find ways to feel emotionally close, even when physically separated. Since you don’t enjoy the usual couple downtime on weekends or in the mornings or evenings, discover the ways you can encourage closeness even when you’re apart. Watch the same movie or a football game together and text or talk to each other while you watch. My husband and I liked to share articles during the day and discuss them over email.
Get to know to know your spouse’s work schedule, environment, and their usual haunts when possible. If you’re traveling on the road, share photos of what your hotel room looks like, or film a video of your usual commute. That helps the other half imagine what you’re up to with more visual detail.