Want More Romance? The 4 Things That Should Be On Your “Don’t Do” List

Don’t rib him if something goes wrong – or it wasn’t quite right.

As he takes the initiative to pursue romance with you, it probably won’t all be smooth sailing. At some point, something’s bound to go wrong. A planned breakfast burns on the stove. You show up at the restaurant and it’s closed. The sweater is the wrong size. Whatever the complication, take it in stride and go graciously to Plan B, and tell him he’s awesome. He tried, and that’s what counts. Realize: he will already be feeling like a big, fat failure for not checking the restaurant times or the cooking temperature. So skip the “funny” sarcasm or the jokes with your friends about the burned egg casserole, and only joke about it if he does. (Because laughing together over a humorous situation can turn a fumble into a silly, sweet memory.)

Now, guys also told me they didn’t mind feedback … if it was helpful (“Well, I loved being with you, but I guess I just don’t like watching golf as much as I like watching basketball”)… and if it came days later after he has notched up a success you’ve celebrated.