Want More Romance? The 4 Things That Should Be On Your “Don’t Do” List

Don’t forget to show appreciation for his efforts.

Use positive affirmation to show your man that his romantic efforts — whatever they looked like — were worth it. Life moves quickly, and it’s easy to jump right into the next activity, but don’t neglect the important step of telling him that he was awesome. Because if you skip the appreciation, he is likely to default to thinking he didn’t please you… and he may skip the romantic effort the next time!

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During my research one man said, “Encourage me and affirm my efforts, and I’ll run through a brick wall to please you.” A simple but heartfelt “thank you” goes a long way. (Did you know that saying “thank you” to a man is the equivalent of saying “I love you” to a woman?) A kiss, a hug, a card or love note expressing gratitude, posting or framing photos, telling others about the event (this is especially effective when you do it in front of your husband), sharing memories of it together later — these are all great ways to communicate your appreciation.

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Your man wants to make you happy. He wants you to know you’re loved. So be mindful of your “To Do” and your “Don’t Do” lists when it comes to romance. I promise he’ll be inspired to keep sharing his heart with you. And maybe, just maybe, he’ll clean those toilets for you.

Helping people thrive in life and relationships is Shaunti Feldhahn’s driving passion, supported by her research projects and writing. After starting out with a Harvard graduate degree and experience on Wall Street, her life took an unexpected shift into relationship research. She now is a popular speaker around the world and the author of best-selling books about men, women, and relationships. (Including For Women Only, For Men Only, and the groundbreaking The Good News About Marriage).

Her newest book, The Kindness Challenge, demonstrates that kindness is the answer to almost every life problem, and is sparking a much-needed movement of kindness across the country. Visit www.shaunti.com for more.