Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #9 to a highly happy marriage, the happiest spouses I researched don’t always tell the brutal truth. Secret #9 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Don’t Tell it Like It Is from Shaunti Feldhahn on Vimeo. Wish Shaunti could speak at an event... Read more
A woman came up to me after a talk about gender differences and asked, “My husband and I were watching that new Tom Hanks movie, Bridge of Spies, and near the end I looked over and my husband was crying! I mean, it’s great that Tom Hanks saved the day, but why on earth would that make my husband cry?” Read more
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #8 to a highly happy marriage, a big part of the reason highly happy marrieds are so happy is that they are spending time together. Secret #8 of Highly Happy Marriages: Hang Out from Shaunti Feldhahn on Vimeo. Wish Shaunti could speak... Read more
While doing some research for my next book, I realized something important: when we are angry, most of us handle it wrong! Here are four ways to keep ourselves from (forgive the Marvel reference) turning into a big green rage monster when we otherwise would really want to! 1. In advance, realize: “venting” only makes things worse! Most of us have bought into the idea that letting a little steam out of the kettle now prevents it from exploding... Read more
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. In Secret #7 to a highly happy marriage, the happiest spouses I researched identified a secret signal or language to reconnect after having an argument. Secret #6 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Have Factual Fantasies from Shaunti Feldhahn on Vimeo. Wish Shaunti could speak... Read more
Men: Want to make your wife insanely happy? Try this one phrase. The man sidled up to me at one of our recent marriage conferences, and was clearly trying to ask a question before his wife noticed. “So I say ‘I love you’ a lot,” he explained in a low voice, “But it seems to sort of bounce off. It’s like she discounts whether that is really true because it is such a common phrase. Is there one thing I... Read more
Author Shaunti Feldhahn talks about Secret #6 to a highly happy marriage. The happiest spouses she researched recognize when their expectations are pure fantasy and stop themselves from thinking things like, "If he/she really love me, he/she would …" Instead they shift to being grateful for the ways their pluses are uniquely wired, and the ways they can and do meet their needs well. Read more
Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually defaults to insisting that he’s fine, it’s all good, he doesn’t need help. Even when we might insist otherwise. My research with men for For Women Only revealed four surprising reasons for the stubborn independence: 1. Needing help means, by definition, that he’s unable to do it himself. We women... Read more
Earlier, I wrote a piece about how this culture is seriously messed up when it comes to women's bodies. Then, I asked you what YOU thought. Read more
In today's culture, you are either a "slut shamer" or "celebrating a woman's body" through nude selfies. Isn't there middle ground? Read more
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