Secret #2 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Believe the Best

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. 97% of all spouses said they care about their mate. Those distancing feelings of hurt, anger and resentment in marriage arise a lot less often once you believe your spouse really does care about you. When you feel like your spouse doesn’t care, ask... Read more

Some hysterical memes about the differences between men and women

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

People always send me memes about the differences between men and women. Some of them are too raunchy to post, but this one was (fairly) tame and made me laugh out loud. Mostly because A) it fits so well with my research but also B) because I see myself and Jeff in so many of these! (Except the picture about the woman’s desk being the one that is clean. Ahem.) Why do these strike such a nerve? Because most of... Read more

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy. And in many ways you already do! But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly 80% of cases) will put you into hero category: 1. “Here, let me do that…” Saying “What can I do to help?” is fantastic. Stepping in and taking something off her hands feels to her as if a couple of... Read more

Secret #1 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Little Is Big

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Wish Shaunti could speak at an event in your area? You can help! Forward this piece or others to a leader at your organization or church, with a note of recommendation. They can reach Shaunti at [email protected]. Shaunti Feldhahn is the best-selling author of... Read more

Dads: Four Phrases a Daughter Needs to Hear From You

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dads, we know you love your daughter. And you know you love your daughter. But you might be surprised at much she needs to hear it. In the research with teens and preteens for For Parents Only, I found that these four phrases have a lot more impact than you might think. And as you’ll see, they are especially powerful and important when coming from a father. Use them often! 1. “I love you, sweetheart.” Until she is married, you... Read more

Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with the same visual temptations as everyone else! In honor of all boys who want to do the right thing, here are four things every mom, especially, needs to know: 1. It starts young. Yes, I knew men and boys were... Read more

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

1. “Just don’t think about it.” Women have no idea what that means. If she’s worried that her best friend suddenly isn’t talking to her, she has no way to not think about it. As men, you have this amazing ability to close out an unwelcome thought – almost like closing out a window on your computer desktop. But as we discovered in our For Men Only research, nearly nine in ten women can’t just ignore something that is... Read more

How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to let me see her in all her glory? We have a decent sex life, we don’t have any real marriage problems, and I’m careful to not check out other women. But she still seems to feel like how she looks is not “enough” somehow. She worries about gaining weight since the kids arrived, her “small boobs,” or the fact that she doesn’t get to the... Read more

Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put it out of your head and focus on whatever you’re doing that day. But for most women… not so much. In my research for For Men Only, one woman explained it this way: “A lot of desperate feelings surface when I feel like my husband is displeased with me. I know it sounds old-fashioned, and I’m a pretty independent person, but it still really affects... Read more

My ADD son is checking out in school

Last updated on: November 17, 2017 at 7:41 pm By Shaunti Feldhahn

Dear Shaunti, My 6th-grade son is discouraged in school and I’m worried he’s starting to check out. He tries hard, but he has some learning issues (like ADD) that create real academic challenges. Where his sisters get A’s with little effort, he can work for hours and get B’s and C’s on his tests. And the teachers are great, but they don’t seem to know how to handle his ADD. He is constantly getting detentions for disrupting class because... Read more