Today’s article is a guest post from my Digital Content Manager, Caroline Niziol. Caroline has been on my team since 2014 and works primarily on blogs, social media, and lots of other projects. I hope everyone involved in long-distance relationships finds her article encouraging. These points are great to keep in mind whether or not you’re currently doing the 30-Day Kindness Challenge for your spouse! My husband and I have been together for nearly seven years and married for the... Read more
Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture? It’s tough out there in the modern world for your man. Here are four actions that matter. Keep reading to learn more! Read more
Many boys these days go through challenging times that are not of their making, and yet they affect how our sons view themselves. Every day, boys experience challenges at school that make them feel stupid, especially since our sit-still-and-listen school processes are not necessarily optimally designed for how boys’ brains learn! Perhaps even more toxic to how our sons view themselves is the fact that for some reason it has become acceptable to engage in casual male bashing. (“Yeah, I’ve... Read more
In the research for For Women Only and The Kindness Challenge, I’ve seen an overlooked, seemingly old-fashioned secret. If you want to be a wife that your husband adores, practice using an affirming tone and eliminating a contentious one. Tweet this: “If you want to be a wife that your husband adores, practice using an affirming tone and eliminating a contentious one.“ We’ve all heard the saying “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar,” right? We all... Read more
So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready to cool off and mend the relationship. What better way to make up than to spend a little intimate time together, right? Just one little problem, though: physical intimacy is the farthest thing from her mind. What’s the deal? Tweet this: “For a woman, physical intimacy isn’t usually the solution to a problem, but rather, evidence that it’s been resolved.” For a woman, physical intimacy... Read more
Friends, normally, I stick to relationship content. But I think everyone needs to be aware of a recent terror incident in Egypt. Although the Manchester and London terrorist attacks were horrifying, and I’m grateful for the outpouring of support to those families and those cities, I paid far more attention to those incidents than one I also heard mentioned in the news. I never even sought out more information. The media never featured it. Yet it was far more personally... Read more
Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy. And in many ways you already do! But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly 80% of cases) will put you into hero category: 1. “Here, let me do that…” Saying “What can I do to help?” is fantastic. Stepping in and taking something off her hands feels to her as if a couple of... Read more
Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with the same visual temptations as everyone else! In honor of all boys who want to do the right thing, here are four things every mom, especially, needs to know: 1. It starts young. Yes, I knew men and boys were visual – but I didn’t really grasp just how visual until my... Read more
Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about in your book For Women Only. How do I do that? My husband has a huge amount of pride and is unable to accept any criticism or failure on his part; he always throws mistakes back on me. I can’t help but see him as irresponsible and prideful at times. I know that I have delivered some harsh criticism to him over the 14 years of... Read more
“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I can’t tell you how often I have heard that phrase. Most recently last weekend, after the worship services at a mega church in the Midwest. The pastor had interviewed me as the sermon on Restoring Hope for Marriage, and asked what my research shows are the most crucial marital actions to do – and to avoid. Afterward, several people told us they wished they hadn’t... Read more
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