7 questions to ask before getting a divorce

1. Have I done everything in my power to save this marriage?

Granted, you cannot control your spouse’s actions or their desires, but have you done everything in your power to bring healing and hope? If not, write down a list of things you could do and start doing them. Marriage is always worth fighting for! For more on this, check out my post on The Truth about Divorce.

2. Am I trusting my Faith more than my Feelings?

Feelings are fickle and in many divorce scenarios, people are pursuing an illusion of happiness instead of trusting God’s plan to bring wholeness, health and peace. For more on this, please take a minute to read What to do when your marriage feels dead.

3. Is Divorce the best possible choice?

I believe that in some scenarios where there is a pattern of broken trust through adultery or physical abuse, the only viable option is Divorce, but in most scenarios, divorce creates more problems than it solves. In most cases, couples with lasting marriages aren’t the ones who never had a reason to get divorced; they’re simple the ones who choose to work through their issues together.

#4 might be the single most important question on this list…