6 Ways to Provide Better Care for Suicidal Non-Religious People

6 Ways to Provide Better Care for Suicidal Non-Religious People December 16, 2018


By Gayle Jordan, executive director of Recovering from Religion

The National Suicide Hotline recently asked several organizations, including Recovering from Religion, to provide some suggestions. The federal commission (1) which directs the Hotline is considering the feasibility of creating a 3-digit telephone number, and determining how well the Hotline addresses the needs of veterans.

Studies have shown that, in the US, religiously-unaffiliated individuals who are depressed have higher rates of suicidal behavior (2). Despite this disparity, there is a significant lack of research into the stress experiences of atheists and other religiously-unaffiliated people in the US. This dearth of research is particularly notable given the increasing size of religiously-unaffiliated populations. Currently, about 24% of adults are religiously-unaffiliated. Atheists and agnostics make up about 7% of the total population (3). Counselors have highlighted the necessity for a greater understanding of the needs and beliefs of atheists and religiously-unaffiliated people in order to better serve these populations (4).

Our comments, of course, were directed toward the support the Hotline provides for religiously-unaffiliated folks, folks facing a faith crisis, and persons who have faced religion-based trauma.

In consultation with American Atheists, the Secular Therapy Project, SMART Recovery, and other organizations focused on providing counseling to atheists and religiously-unaffiliated people, we were able to submit the following recommendations to ensure adequate training and/or specialization of services to meet the needs of these at-risk populations:

1. Make referrals for secular therapy.

Ensure that hotline counselors are aware that non-religious therapists are available to assist callers after any immediate crisis has been resolved. Anecdotally, many atheists and religiously unaffiliated people report that their therapist or counselor has tried to push religion on them, which is often counterproductive. The Secular Therapy Project (5) can help clients to find appropriate, non-religious post-crisis counseling.

2. Make referrals for peer-based secular support.

Once they are stabilized, callers who mention a faith crisis, loss of faith, or fear of hell may be referred to the Recovering from Religion Helpline, (6) which can help identify resources to provide support and help with coping. Counselors report that people often go through some level of depression immediately after leaving religion, which is almost always related to loss of social support.

3. Normalize faith crisis and accompanying isolation as a form of loss requiring support.

People leaving religion need extra social support because of the shunning, guilt, and shame they frequently experience from their religious associates. Individuals going through a faith crisis frequently report that family and friends can abandon them almost overnight, and that those who stay in contact may harangue them with harmful religious messages. This pattern is often related to suicidal ideation. Therefore, hotline counselors must be trained to help callers understand that leaving religion or having a faith crisis can be a significant loss, that this would be difficult for almost anyone to handle alone, and that there are sources of support available to them.

4. Make referrals for secular addiction recovery services.

Dependency on alcohol or drugs is a major risk factor for suicidality, and hotline counselors will frequently need to provide counseling or make referrals to help callers deal with these issues. However, many addiction recovery programs and peer-based recovery services employ faith-based or religious counseling, which is inappropriate for atheist or religiously-unaffiliated callers. Therefore, hotline counselors should be prepared to make referrals to secular recovery services such as SMART Recovery. (7)

5. Avoid reinforcing harmful religious messages.

One pattern therapists often report in clients suffering a faith crisis is trauma due to fear of hell. Certain religions program people to believe that they will go to hell if they don’t believe in a very specific and detailed way. Since such belief is virtually impossible to maintain, the person starts having doubts that they will ever be good enough and believes that they are inevitably destined for hell. This pattern may exacerbate depression and suicidality, as such individuals may come to believe that life has no meaning since they have no hope of heaven. A counselor unaccustomed to dealing with these issues may have a negative impact on callers by reinforcing these religious messages.

6. Address isolation among the religiously unaffiliated.

Finally, those who have been religiously-unaffiliated for many years, or even their whole lives, can feel quite isolated in many parts of the country where church is the primary social event in people’s lives. Hotline counselors must be trained to recognize that isolation and loneliness are critical factors for this population regardless of how long one has been atheist or religiously unaffiliated. 


(1) National Suicide Hotline Improvement Act of 2018, Pub. L. No. 115-233, H.R. 2345, 115th Congress (2018). Available at https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/115/hr2345/text.

(2) Dervic K, Oquendo MA, Grunebaum MF, Ellis S, Burke AK, and Mann JJ. (2004). Religious Affiliation and Suicide Attempt. Am. J. of Psychiatry, published online: 1 Dec 2004. Available at https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/appi.ajp.161.12.2303#.

(3) Cox D & Jones RP. (2017). America’s Changing Religious Identity: Findings from the 2016 American Values Atlas. Public Religion Research Institution: Washington, DC. Available at https://www.prri.org/research/american-religious-landscape-christian-religiously-unaffiliated/

(4) D’Andrea LM & Sprenger J. (2007). Atheism and Nonspirituality as Diversity Issues in Counseling. Counseling and Values, 51(2), 149-158.

(5) The Secular Therapy Project (www.SecularTherapy.org) provides therapists who are vetted, well-trained, and who use no religious or supernatural concepts in their work. The therapy is not free, as these are professionals in private practice, but the Secular Therapy Project search service is entirely free to both clients and therapists.

(6) The Recovering from Religion Helpline (www.recoveringfromreligion.org) provides support by putting people in faith crisis in touch with trained call and chat agents. With vast resources in their database, the Helpline can assist callers and chatters find information that addresses where they are on their journey, and timely social support through local support groups. The Recovering from Religion Helpline also has a private online community which provides support for those who have no groups near them or who cannot otherwise connect with a local group.

(7) SMART Recovery (https://www.smartrecovery.org/) is an abstinence-based, not-for-profit organization with a sensible self-help program for people having problems with drinking and using. The programs uses a cognitive-behavioral (thinking/doing) psychotherapy called Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), which does not require belief in powerlessness, religion, or spirituality.

About Gayle Jordan
Gayle is a former Southern Baptist who left the faith 10 years ago when her then-teenagers began asking questions she could not answer. Her research led her (and her children) into the light of reason and rationality. Years later, she still feels the effects, both positive and negative, of that dramatic shift in perspective and attitude. It is this sympathy and compassion that drives her to reach out to help others navigate the emotional and physical process involved in leaving one's faith. Gayle is an attorney and former personal trainer. She lives on Freethought Farm in middle Tennessee, where she spends her days amongst her longhorns, goats, donkeys, chickens, and dogs. She blogs about life on the farm, endurance event training, and secularism at Happy. Healthy. Heathen. You can read more about the author here.
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