Last fall I had the opportunity to address a room full of deconverts like myself at a conference especially designed for “apostates” like us. Apostacon was held in Dallas, TX, last year from September 18-20, keynoted by Penn & Teller, who were as entertaining as always.
I spoke on the second day of the conference on the subject of what Christians say to me upon learning that I left my faith, and on what I typically say in response. It is among one of my favorite talks that I’ve given because it touches on such a wide range of topics that regularly come up in conversation for people like me. The talk is about 28 minutes long, and the audience was wonderfully responsive. It was a lot of fun to discuss.
In the video, I respond to each of the 17 most common things I hear in conversations about leaving my faith:
- Try reading the Bible.
- Read this one book that I’ve never read but heard is great.
- Why don’t you try praying about it?
- If only you had known True Christianity.
- You must not have ever really believed.
- It’s a phase. You’ll grow out of it.
- If only you knew it’s a relationship, not a religion.
Questioning Your Sincerity
- You just want to be your own boss.
- Why are you angry at God?
- Don’t judge God by the behavior of his people.
Pulling Your Heartstrings
- Your mother will be so worried for you.
- When times get tough, you’ll see. You’ll change your mind.
- How can you look at your beautiful children…?
- But what if you’re wrong? Are you willing to take that risk?
- I don’t have enough faith to be an atheist.
- Then where do you get your morals?
- Where did everything come from?
There are many more, but I wanted to keep the talk under a half an hour. Enjoy!