Coffee Shop Conversations: Hating People you Disagree With

Coffee Shop Conversations: Hating People you Disagree With November 11, 2018

I went to the coffee shop early this morning. We’re closed on Sundays, but our town is having a Veteran’s Day parade later this morning, so we will be open for those few hours of the parade. Small businesses gotta get what we can, plus it’s chilly out today so people will want coffee and hot chocolate. Someone has to give the goods.

As I braved the bone-chilling cold this morning and headed on over to the coffee shop, a few thoughts came to mind:

Sign in Coffee shop window
Social media has made it easier to hate someone or wish them ill will and not feel the consequences in a real and tangible way.  

I try to stay away from conversations both online and in real life that has anything to do with politics.

It’s been tough. Most of us have our leanings political-wise and believe strongly in them. Whether I’m in my coffee shop or a local pub; it seems like I’m getting into a conversation about politics, the economy, or some other subject along those lines.

Depending on the people partaking in the conversation, it can go from casual to mayhem at the drop of a dime. This is even worse on social media platforms, like Twitter.

It’s near impossible for anyone to have civilized discussions or disagreements. More often than not people end up hating each other and wish ill will towards one another because of differing views.

A couple of questions:

Why do we as a society feel the need to hate or wish ill will toward people we disagree with? When did we, Christians, decide it was okay to hate our enemies and do whatever we can to bring destruction to another person’s life?

This goes against the teachings and actions of Jesus. When we hate our enemies and wish harm against them in both word and deed, we diminish the power of our testimony of the gospel in our lives.

I wonder if it’s because we love the world and the things of this world more than the will of God.

1 John 2:15-17
“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life (pride in possessions) is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world is passing away along with its desires, but whoever does the will of God abides forever.”

About Joe Puentes
Joe Puentes is a ragamuffin, sojourner, writer, speaker, entrepreneur, husband, dad and heart attack survivor. He owns a coffeehouse, which he operates with two of his young adult children. You can read more about the author here.
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  • Barros Serrano

    This inability to discuss politics is a serious flaw in the Yank psyche. In other countries it is different. In France you can argue politics in the cafe or bar with your friend, call each other fascist and communist and then, “ok, my friend, see you later, say hi to the wife.”

    Here we’re like feuding gangs of 5th-grade girls. As a result there is now very little communication across the divide, the 2 sides even have their own “news” sources to feed their existing opinions rather than make them think…

    think about it… if we took 2 of our best politicians from each Party, say Franklin, Lincoln, Jefferson and Madison, and sat them down at a table, they’d solve our problems! They may have fistfights and Jefferson would try to seduce everyone’s wives but still they’d think of the COUNTRY first and devise solutions!!!

    Think that could happen with today’s obstructionist never-deal-with-the-democrats GOP? Not bloody likely. They’re on a road to corporate hegemonic neo-feudalist fascism and considerations of democracy or what’s good for the country are entirely absent. The democrats aren’t perfect certainly, but they are willing to deal, as they’ve proven repeatedly.

    We’re in a deep pit, folks.