September 19, 2019

  Deconstructing our faith is a necessary part of growing in maturity and refining our faith in Christ. To truly embrace Christ, we need to first eliminate all the toxic baggage and man-made hierarchy built on fear and control that has twisted and distorted our ability to see and experience God properly. But there is one thing even worse than the controlling fear-based Christianity we’re deconstructing out of – Toxic Reconstruction. Yes, it’s a real thing. Toxic Reconstruction is when… Read more

September 18, 2019

When it comes to Reconstruction, don’t accept any substitutes. Don’t settle for less. Don’t give up because it’s starting to get hard. Don’t tell yourself that what you’ve got is “good enough” and stop working towards actual, true and authentic freedom from every last shred of toxic Christianity. I know too many people who have stopped short of actual Reconstruction and it’s nearly more depressing than watching  someone endure the pain of an un-deconstructed Christian faith. Almost. Usually, those who… Read more

September 13, 2019

Some Christian Churches are waking up to the fact that some within their walls are starting to Deconstruct their faith. I’ve even seen a few Churches hosting events to address the issue and even talk about how to move on to Reconstruction. But, here’s what those Churches need to understand: If you don’t change your Church into a safe place to ask questions and even doubt some of your precious doctrines, people will continue to walk away from you. Yes,… Read more

September 11, 2019

As I continue to explore the need to move from Deconstruction of our religious faith into Reconstruction, I’m starting to recognize the need to replace our old habits with new spiritual practices. For example, we may walk away from Church-as-we-know-it as we Deconstruct our religious beliefs. Sometimes it’s because we’re asked to leave due to our heretical views, or because we just can’t stand sitting through another sermon about how a loving God would burn people in an eternal lake… Read more

September 9, 2019

As I’m preparing to launch Square 1 – a new 90-day transformational program that helps people move from Deconstruction to Reconstruction – I feel the need to clarify a few things about “Reconstruction.” Specifically, the notion that “Reconstruction” of our faith involves telling people what to believe. For the record: Reconstruction has nothing to do with Re-Indoctrination. Think about it: You’ve just spent months, perhaps years, re-thinking and deconstructing your Christian faith; questioning the doctrines your pastors and parents and… Read more

September 6, 2019

  For the last 12 years or so, I’ve been going through the long, slow and painful process of Deconstruction. That has meant questioning and re-thinking everything I thought I knew about the Gospel, Salvation, the Crucifixion, Resurrection, the Second Coming of Christ, the Bible, the Church, and pretty much everything in between. Along the way this process has meant tossing aside some beliefs that I discovered were based more on tradition than on anything Jesus actually taught, or what… Read more

September 5, 2019

Forgiveness. It’s one of the very hardest things in the world for most of us to do. Yet, Jesus commands us to forgive others. And not only to forgive them, but to forgive them in the same way that we have been forgiven by God. Jesus expresses it this way: “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.” [John 13:34; and John 15:12]  But Paul puts… Read more

September 4, 2019

Deconstruction isn’t easy. I think anyone who has gone through it, or still going through it, can agree with that. Losing friends, fellowship and family as you shed your theological beliefs is one of the most excruciating things imaginable. Many people end up feeling isolated, rejected and confused, without any idea where to go next or what to believe about God, the Bible or reality itself. Without someone to help you through this process, it’s doubtful that you will come… Read more

August 30, 2019

When you’ve deconstructed your faith, where do you go next? When you’ve abandoned your faith, but your friends and family have abandoned you, where do you go to start again? You go back to square one. That’s what I’ve done so many times in my life. I’ve doubted my faith, questioned the answers and found myself having to go back to the beginning to re-think and re-form and re-fresh my mind to figure out what I believe, and why. This… Read more

August 29, 2019

I realized something today: My focus needs to shift from helping people deconstruct their faith to helping people reconstruct their faith. It’s a pretty big realization for me. And, to be honest, it’s not easy for me to make that shift. I’ve spent over 12 years blogging about my own deconstruction process, and an equal amount of time writing books about why we need to look at the Gospel, and the Church and the Church and the Bible from a… Read more

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