As I’ve been continually researching the idea of Reconstruction, one thing I’ve become convinced of is that rewiring our brains is critical to successfully moving from darkness to light in this process. We’ve already looked at how important it is to admit that we’ve been hurt, and to work on practicing forgiveness for those who have wounded us, but the other essential element for our healing and freedom involves learning to be grateful. Yes, an attitude of gratitude is key… Read more

When you demolish a building you take everything down to the foundation and stop. At least, that’s what you do if you plan to rebuild a brand-new structure in the same spot. For those who have deconstructed their Christian faith, finding that foundation can be challenging. Sometimes it can feel as if you’re just pounding rocks in the darkness. One day you look around and realize that you’ve torn everything down to dirt beneath the foundation because you weren’t sure… Read more

  Deconstructing our faith is a necessary part of growing in maturity and refining our faith in Christ. To truly embrace Christ, we need to first eliminate all the toxic baggage and man-made hierarchy built on fear and control that has twisted and distorted our ability to see and experience God properly. But there is one thing even worse than the controlling fear-based Christianity we’re deconstructing out of – Toxic Reconstruction. Yes, it’s a real thing. Toxic Reconstruction is when… Read more

When it comes to Reconstruction, don’t accept any substitutes. Don’t settle for less. Don’t give up because it’s starting to get hard. Don’t tell yourself that what you’ve got is “good enough” and stop working towards actual, true and authentic freedom from every last shred of toxic Christianity. I know too many people who have stopped short of actual Reconstruction and it’s nearly more depressing than watching  someone endure the pain of an un-deconstructed Christian faith. Almost. Usually, those who… Read more

Some Christian Churches are waking up to the fact that some within their walls are starting to Deconstruct their faith. I’ve even seen a few Churches hosting events to address the issue and even talk about how to move on to Reconstruction. But, here’s what those Churches need to understand: If you don’t change your Church into a safe place to ask questions and even doubt some of your precious doctrines, people will continue to walk away from you. Yes,… Read more

As I continue to explore the need to move from Deconstruction of our religious faith into Reconstruction, I’m starting to recognize the need to replace our old habits with new spiritual practices. For example, we may walk away from Church-as-we-know-it as we Deconstruct our religious beliefs. Sometimes it’s because we’re asked to leave due to our heretical views, or because we just can’t stand sitting through another sermon about how a loving God would burn people in an eternal lake… Read more

As I’m preparing to launch Square 1 – a new 90-day transformational program that helps people move from Deconstruction to Reconstruction – I feel the need to clarify a few things about “Reconstruction.” Specifically, the notion that “Reconstruction” of our faith involves telling people what to believe. For the record: Reconstruction has nothing to do with Re-Indoctrination. Think about it: You’ve just spent months, perhaps years, re-thinking and deconstructing your Christian faith; questioning the doctrines your pastors and parents and… Read more

  For the last 12 years or so, I’ve been going through the long, slow and painful process of Deconstruction. That has meant questioning and re-thinking everything I thought I knew about the Gospel, Salvation, the Crucifixion, Resurrection, the Second Coming of Christ, the Bible, the Church, and pretty much everything in between. Along the way this process has meant tossing aside some beliefs that I discovered were based more on tradition than on anything Jesus actually taught, or what… Read more

Deconstruction isn’t easy. I think anyone who has gone through it, or still going through it, can agree with that. Losing friends, fellowship and family as you shed your theological beliefs is one of the most excruciating things imaginable. Many people end up feeling isolated, rejected and confused, without any idea where to go next or what to believe about God, the Bible or reality itself. Without someone to help you through this process, it’s doubtful that you will come… Read more