Refining My Focus On Reconstruction

Refining My Focus On Reconstruction August 29, 2019

I realized something today: My focus needs to shift from helping people deconstruct their faith to helping people reconstruct their faith.

It’s a pretty big realization for me.

And, to be honest, it’s not easy for me to make that shift. I’ve spent over 12 years blogging about my own deconstruction process, and an equal amount of time writing books about why we need to look at the Gospel, and the Church and the Church and the Bible from a different perspective.

It almost comes naturally for me to do these things. It’s automatic.

So, like this morning on Facebook, I spent about an hour going back-and-forth with a few people trying to show them that – according to the Bible – our foundation is Christ [not the Bible], and our authority is Christ [not the Bible], and that Jesus told us that the Law and the Prophets would disappear and become obsolete [because that was why he came: to fulfill the Law and the Prophets].

Most of the time my efforts along these lines fail miserably. At least for the specific persons I am having the conversation with. [Not all the time, fortunately. There have been a few surprising changes of heart over the years in a few people]. But, the main goal of those online debates is to help those who are lurking and reading along and following our back-and-forth conversation to process everything and eventually to see with new eyes.

That’s honestly the only reason why I continue to engage in those sorts of conversations online.

And, I’m not saying I will totally stop doing this, but I do feel as if I need to shift the majority of my time and energy towards helping people who have already deconstructed their faith to experience reconstruction.

In fact, at the moment I am about to unveil a 90-Day program to help people do exactly that: Move from deconstruction to reconstruction.

If you’re curious, there’s a little landing page for this project here:

In a nutshell my reasons for launching this are simple: Deconstruction is a painful process and no one should have to go through it alone.

Believe me, I know. I’ve been going through it, and still am in many ways, and it’s not easy.

I’m very blessed because my wife, Wendy, has been my guide and my counselor every step of the way. More than once she’s lovingly helped me to walk back from the ledge and help me to hang on to my faith in Christ, even as all other beliefs crumbled away.

But not everyone has someone in their life who can help them through deconstruction.

If possible, I want to help others who find themselves going through this process and walk hand-in-hand with them to find a foundation to reconstruct their faith.

So, I have set aside all my other projects between now and the end of the year. I’ve committed myself to spend several hours building this platform and designing this process. I’m going to spend every day – and several hours each week – for the next 90 days, focused on helping a group of people survive toxic Christianity and rebuild their faith again.

I’m putting together several hours of weekly instruction, setting aside several hours each week for one-on-one conversations with people, and scheduling weekly conference calls to help everyone process their deconstruction.

The irony is, that as I am in the process of building this platform and writing these sessions on deconstruction, I am going through my own literal deconstruction process of packing up my life here in Idaho and moving to our new home in El Paso, TX at the end of this month.

How appropriate.

Packing things away. Donating unused items. Driving across the desert. Searching for a new home. Making new friends. Reconnecting with old friends. Establishing new patterns of living.

All of this is a living metaphor for spiritual deconstruction.

So, I guess I’ll have a constant reminder over the next 90 days in my actual life of what people are enduring in their spiritual and emotional lives as they undergo this deconstruction/reconstruction process.

I can’t wait to unveil everything tomorrow. This is something I’ve been praying about and working on for several months. It’s almost ready to go.

My prayer is that the people who need it most will find it. I hope that all of this will result in transformation for people who feel alone and abandoned by their family, friends and church fellowship.

If you’re one of those people, I hope you’ll join me on this journey.

Meet me at Square 1


Keith Giles was formerly a licensed and ordained minister who walked away from organized church 11 years ago, to start a home fellowship that gave away 100% of the offering to the poor in the community. Today, He and his wife live in Meridian, Idaho, awaiting their next adventure.

Keith’s newest book, “Jesus Unveiled: Forsaking Church As We Know It For Ekklesia As God Intended” released on June 9, 2019 on Amazon, and features a Foreword by author Richard Jacobson.
Keith’s Podcast: Heretic Happy Hour Podcast is on iTunes and Podbean. 

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  • swbarnes2

    More than once she’s lovingly helped me to walk back from the ledge and help me to hang on to my faith in Christ….I hope that all of this will result in transformation for people who feel alone and abandoned by their family, friends and church fellowship.

    So ending in atheism is like suicide? I’m sure people moving towards atheism will feel that you are super supportive of their process.

  • Herm

    So ending in atheism is like suicide?

    swbarnes2, yes, it does end, too often, with suicide. People often commit 50 years of their lives buying into, following and teaching faith in an all powerful God as taught by doctrinal authorities, of especially Muslim, Jewish and Christian corporate religions, before realizing none of those authorities spoke for the God of spirit they thought they sensed. When left with nothing but an empty and false relationship of worship to an unknown God … with no provable relationship with a God worshipped for over half their entire life … atheism is suicide to all efforts of growth in spirit and social values developed over their first 50 years.

    Keith’s empathetic efforts to share alternatives, that keep those sincere 50 years from being a total waste, can be accepted as “super supportive of their process”. It’s their choice, always should have been, not yours, mine, God’s or Keith’s.

    The only qualifying judgment that Keith is responsible to is whether or not he doing for others as he would have others do for him. That judgment is qualified between Keith and the God he knows only.

    At 50, 25 years ago, I found myself with nothing that I had valued most in my life: no job, no family, and no church … all that I had once successfully sacrificed nearly all my efforts to attain.

    I share with you today that there was life after my total loss that included support from all, both truth and untruth, that I had learned in the previous 50 years. Today, I live securely with and in God who I earlier was trained, and trained others, to wrongly believe had to be served, sacrificed to and ritualistically worshipped from afar. Today, I am served by God who is infinitely more capable than I am to serve them. Today, I am loved by God more than I could possibly love God with all the love I am capable of giving.

    I am free from allegiance to any other law than in everything first I do to all others as I would have all others do to me.

    I share with you, and all who might read this, only as I would have you, and them, share with me. I respect your responsibility to accept what you are honestly ready to accept as I would have you to do the same for me.

    You are loved as you are. If you are a merciful neighbor, I love you no less than I love myself.

  • Interesting how you say that the main reason why you participate in open online discussion is for the benefit of the lurkers. It;s the same for me; I call them the ‘Invisible Listeners’. (Hi guys!!) Although ‘theological’ discussion, especially the more heated sort, does tend to put people off looking at faith issues at all, I think that happens anyway. So there’s therefore nothing to lose by entering into discussion, but I do like to portray that there are gracious, kind, gentle people who call themselves Jesus followers, who are not harsh and nasty. And I appreciate that these (harsh and nasty) people are probably not like that at all in real life, or in ftf discussion – or at least I’d hope not. But their online personas can sometimes be somewhat off-putting (they would call someone else being like that a ‘bad witness’; sorry, I meant a ‘Bad Witness’ (capitalisation important)) and so I like to show that there are those of us who can be reasonable – even online.