But God called my bluff.

This white, 53-year-old mother hadn’t counted on God sending an African American with dreads named Glenn.

The author, Gaye Clark, continues, “To the parent like me who never envisioned her daughter in an interracial marriage, here are eight things to remember when your white daughter brings a black man home for dinner,” before adding: “Glenn moved from being a black man to beloved son.”

Particularly important is point number 4:

4. Remember to be patient with family members.

Calling Uncle Fred a bigot because he doesn’t want your daughter in an interracial marriage dehumanizes him and doesn’t help your daughter either. Lovingly bear with others’ fears, concerns, and objections while firmly supporting your daughter and son-in-law. Don’t cut naysayers off if they aren’t undermining the marriage. Pray for them.

Yes, it’s definitely being called a bigot that is the dehumanising thing here. I’m glad we’re concentrating on Uncle Fred’s feelings. It’s tough to be a racist these days.