“For most of us who are actually living this reality, however, the problem is not that we haven’t asked the right questions. We have asked all the questions, from every perspective we can think of. We have looked at larger economic and social realities, and how our own situations fit into those realities. We have considered and reconsidered, shifted and recalibrated. We have gone with the old standbys. We have been creative. We have asked what each parent can do, and what each parent can do best. We’ve tried to figure out who wants what most, and what sacrifices might hurt least. “
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