Parenting Without God is for parents who lack belief in a god and who are seeking guidance on raising freethinkers in a Christian-dominated nation. It will help parents give their children the tools to stand up to attempts at religious proselytization, whether by teachers, coaches, friends, or even other family members. It also offers advice on teaching children to question what others tell them and to reach their own conclusions based on evidence and reason. Above all, the book argues that parents should lead by example—both by speaking candidly about the importance of secularism and by living an openly secular life.
I’m not a parent, but I plan to be, and therefore I have read a great number of parenting books. To me Dan Arel’s Parenting Without God is a pretty good book in this genre.
The most striking feature of the book is something mentioned by Peter Boghossian in his foreword to the book and Arel himself in the introduction: unlike most parenting books, this book is not a strict series of inflexible rules based on abstract thought which would crumble in the face of the real world and its difficulties. No, the book is sufficiently humble (not too humble) and it acknowledges the caveats and subtleties of the real world. That is really great and a breath of fresh air when it comes to parenting books.
The thing I really loved about this book was its unashamed anti-theism. Usually parenting books and people talking about parenting in general treat religion in a very annoying reverential way, and it was so good to see a book which calls bullshit bullshit and is not ashamed to call out major world religions for their moral bankruptcy.
This is an honest book. It’s honest in its humility and uncertainty in the face of the complexities of religion and it is honest in the face of immoral bullshit of major world religions.
The last section of the book which deals with parents other than Dan is very interesting too. It was definitely a great idea to include it.
Of course, the atheism of the book holds nothing much new for me, no new arguments or no new perspective. In that regard I wanted to move away from the more argumentative parts faster and get into the parenting parts. And I don’t think the book was written with the intention to be very novel in its arguments.
As Dan Arel himself says I disagree with many of his arguments in the book, but that’s to be expected. I guess I’m too active in the atheist movement and many of these arguments are new to more casual readers.
So in summary I can say this is a thoughtful and comprehensive book about the challenges of being an atheist parents and it is a perfect read for the casual atheist struggling with raising a children in our theocratic world and it is definitely recommended.
The book is available for purchase here.