January 2, 2009

Well, readers, it’s 2009 (and 1430). May Allah give us all peace and prosperity in this new year!

  • The Calgary Herald profiles Salima Ebrahim, an accomplished young woman.
  • The Washington Post re-examines the private issue made public in the case of the Muslim couple in France divorcing over virginity.
  • The CIA is using Viagra as a way to elicit cooperation from the Taleban. KABOBfest and Feministe discuss.
  • Sri Lanka’s Minister of Education refuted allegations that certain state-run schools have banned wearing of the headscarf by Muslim girls inside school premises.
January 1, 2009

Recently, Australia’s ABC National Radio show, The Religion Report, covered the issue of racism experienced by Muslim women. In light of a recent Australian report entitled “Race, Faith and Gender” published by the Islamic Women’s Welfare Council of Victoria that assessed the impact of racism on Muslim women, host David Rutledge interviewed Joumanah El Matra, the Executive Director of the Islamic Women’s Welfare Council of Victoria about the issue. You can listen to the interview and read the transcript here.

Joumanah El Matrah - Image via 2002 Women's Global Leadership Institute
Joumanah El Matrah - Image via 2002 Women's Global Leadership Institute

The report, as El Matra explains, demonstrates that many non-Muslim Victorians (sixty percent) “associate Muslim women with poor treatment, with oppression and with submissiveness” and tended to see “Muslim women as really lacking any sort of human agency.” The report also sadly indicated that Muslim women themselves were hesitant to approach authorities if needed because of lack of response from authorities. The report clearly identifies that racism impacts the lives of Muslim women in Australia in substantive ways.

During the course of the interview some important points were brought up and interesting issues were discussed. We on MMW have often discussed the fine balancing act we perform in addressing the problems within our own community while at the same time trying to defend it against increased stigmatization. Rutledge asks El Matra about this balancing act:

David Rutledge: Well you’ve told me that there are positive attitudes towards Muslims out there in the non-Muslim community, but as you’ve mentioned, many people are – well they’re sympathetic towards Muslim women because they feel that Muslim women are oppressed within their own communities, and I want to ask you if that presents an issue for the Islamic Women’s Welfare Council because on one hand you’re working with women who are experiencing things like domestic violence and discrimination within their own communities, but on the other hand, you I guess, need to defend those communities from the attitudes of non-Muslims who think that all Muslim women are oppressed. How do you negotiate that?

Joumanah El Matrah: Look, sometimes very well, sometimes very badly. It does make it extremely difficult for us, because the vast majority of the community does feel, if you like, under siege and they don’t want any sort of negative information being released about the community, because they feel that it fuels further racism. Nonetheless, those issues are real and I think that our purpose and commitment needs to be to stay committed to those issues and keep reminding people that violence against women is not unique to Muslim communities.

As accurately noted this is not an easy task, but it is a necessary one. Problems within the community must be addressed and dealt with, but as a religious and/or ethnic minority, the threat of stigmatization is a real one if problems are highlighted. Therefore, the need to address and deal with problems, while ensuring the protection of the communities’ respect and reputation, becomes of utmost importance. Both must occur simultaneously.

The program also brought up the important issue of who speaks for Muslim women and defensiveness within the Muslim women community.

David Rutledge: You’re right, of course, when you say that these things happen in all communities, but I’m wondering about cross-community or cross-cultural dialogue about this. And it was very interesting I thought in 2006 when the then mufti of Australia made his comments about women and uncovered meat, and he received a lot of support from Muslim women who said, ‘Well yes, this is an issue, but it’s our issue and non-Muslims can butt out’. Now do you think that that’s right, that it is up to Muslims to sort out their problems or is there some way in which non-Muslims can weigh into these debates without being seen as Islamophobic or prejudiced?

Joumanah El Matrah: It is possible, but it requires very different community relations than we currently have at the moment in Australia. Mainstream Australians continue to think of Muslims are more violent than other groups and that the issues they face surrounding the violence are unique and certainly far more frequent than other communities. And until those perceptions move, I don’t think that many in the Muslim community are going to welcome inter-community intervention or support with open arms.

Basically, El Matrah hits on a common concern in Muslim communities – that generalizations about Muslims among non-Muslim communities hinder inter-community dialogue and make Muslims hesitant to accept help from non-Muslims.

However, el-Matrah points out a disadvantage of these distances and this defensiveness among young Muslim women. When asked by Rutledge:

David Rutledge: You and I spoke a few years ago on this program, and we were talking about the issue of self-criticism within Islam, and this is the question we still hear, you know, “where is the reflective, self-critical voice in Islam”? I asked you at the time if you thought that in Australia at least, that women might be emerging as that voice, and you said that they might be, but that we haven’t quite arrived yet. Are we closer, do you think?

Joumanah El Matrah: I think we’re closer, but it’s taken a couple of steps back. I’ve noticed that younger women are more defensive about status and our position in Islam than some of the older women, and I think at the moment, young Muslim women seem to be stuck on defending Islam at all costs. And I can see that with some of the younger women who are so invested in defending themselves, their community and their religion, that they’ve left really no room for analysis, and I don’t know whether that will come with age, or whether it’s a function that many young Muslims now have grown up in the post September 11th environment, and it’s difficult for them to get a grip on what relations were like prior to September 11th. They’ve grown up in an environment where what they value is considered regressive, compared to Australian culture.

El Matrah makes an important point and one which I’ve noticed as well. As someone who clearly remembers a pre-9/11 world in which I faced minimal hostility toward my religion, the value of critical analysis of my own religion and Muslims has always been obvious to me. A critical analysis which was able to occur without worry that all Muslims would be stigmatized as violent. However, as minorities, the threat of stigmatization, little or large, has always been there. This is the reality for all minorities – ethnic, religious, sexual, etc.

Finally, on the issue of Iktimal Hage-Ali, whom we covered on MMW recently, El Matrah was forgiving and sympathetic:

David Rutledge: Do you think this is where Iktimal Hage-Ali ironically, could be seen as a role model, an example of how difficult it is for Muslim women to step forward or to be pushed forward as representative of their communities?

Joumanah El Matrah: Yes, yes, I think she was really a perfect example. What was really interesting about her was that she was I think also condemned by Australian society for falling short of that ideal, you know, that they wanted her to be a liberated Muslim women with absolutely no faults whatsoever, so there’s a lot of attention and support given to her, because she didn’t wear the hijab, she spoke very much about living in Australia and being part of Australian society but she was also idolised as well, and the fact that she was associated with people who were questioned over drugs, in my mind wasn’t actually a big deal, but somehow she disappointed everybody and wasn’t allowed to redeem herself in any way.

David Rutledge: And of course the pressure on her came from elements within the Muslim communities as well, she was vilified and smear campaigns.

Joumanah El Matrah: Absolutely, yes. I think that’s how a lot of Muslim women feel though, that they can’t win if they put themselves forward, that one side or the other or both are going to target them in one way or another.

The interview with El Matrah revealed a great deal about Muslim women in Australia. Issues which Muslim women living as minorities in the Western world deal with were presented. To understand the issues in more detail one would have to read the report, although the interview gave listeners a taste of the report’s findings. The interviewer was able to ask important questions which would be on the minds of many non-Muslims and El Matrah was able to answer them intelligently. Having such dialogue in which those ignorant of the issues are able to ask honest and sincere questions which are then answered in honest and self-respectful ways is beneficial to all parties involved.

December 30, 2008

I spent this past weekend at the Reviving the Islamic Spirit convention in Toronto. In its seventh year, the conference brings together thousands of people from all over North America (I think someone said that about 15 thousand people came to this year’s conference), and some of the best-known Islamic scholars. This year’s lineup included Shaykh Hamza Yusuf, Imam Zaid Shakir, Professor Tariq Ramadan, and many others.

Image via conference website.
Image via conference website.

This was my second time at the conference, and it was a powerful experience overall. The people organising did an amazing job, masha’Allah, and a lot of the speakers were really inspiring. This is MMW, so I’m sure you know that there are some critiques coming as well, but I do want to emphasise that I’m not trying to bash the conference as a whole (my criticism is also something that I will be sending to the conference organisers, so hopefully it will be used for something productive rather than just venting.) It’s rare to have so many of those speakers all in one place, and to be able to benefit from all of their dedicated scholarship, and I’m glad that I was able to go.

On the other hand, missing from that list were any female scholars. Yes, there were female speakers, and I’ll talk about them in a moment, but neither one could be considered an Islamic scholar in any way. This does not, of course, detract from the value of any of the individual male scholars, but I was disappointed that the ensemble of scholars was entirely male. Despite the fact that some of the scholars (Yahya Rhodus, Muhammad Ibn Adam) talked about the importance of the contributions to Islamic scholarship made by the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and that other scholars (Tariq Ramadan, Tareq AlSuwaidan) talked about the importance of female leadership, we were not able to see this in action at this particular conference. It’s hard to really internalise the points that these speakers were making, about female participation in the public domain being integral to Islam, when there were so little examples of this in practice.

I don’t know whether the organisers made any kind of effort to try to have female scholars present, but I would argue that this is a pretty important point, and that there should have been a really intense effort. The audience was over 50% female, and it’s really problematic to not see a single example of a female voice as an accomplished scholar of Islam. Yes, it’s true that many female scholars are less well-known and don’t attract as many people as some of the big male names, but at the same time, if they are continually excluded from conferences like this, it’s going to be impossible for them to build a big name. It’s not very encouraging to potential future women scholars if they come to a conference like this and understand the realm of Islamic scholarship to be an exclusively male one. I would love to see a conference like this taking the initiative to seek out some of the many women who are doing really interesting work in Islamic scholarship, and to make a point of supporting them. (Or, at the very least, academic work related to Islam, even if it’s not considered to be traditional Islamic religious scholarship.) Personally, the lack of women on the conference lineup made me think twice about attending; I have another friend whose decision not to come back early from a family event for the convention was directly influenced by the absence of female scholars.

At the same time – it’s sad that this has to seem like a positive point worth mentioning – I was glad to see female MCs throughout the day, and a couple of female speakers. Clearly, the conference organisers didn’t feel that there were inherent problems with having women on stage. Last year, Dr. Jamillah Karim gave an amazing presentation at the same convention, so there have been past examples (however few) of women presenting form a more academic perspective.

The two women that were present were Monia Mazigh and Hanan Turk. Both of them told personal stories of their own life expereinces, in contrast to the male speakers, who all spoke about broader principles and stories that were much more widely applicable. Of course, personal stories are interesting and they do have their place, but it’s frustrating that the divide between women sharing their own experiences and men speaking on topics that can apply to everyone was so stark.

Monia Mazigh. Image vic CBC.
Monia Mazigh. Image vic CBC.

Mazigh is famous for the work that she did when her husband, Maher Arar (a Canadian citizen), was stopped in a U.S. airport on the way back to Canada, and deported to Syria, where he was tortured for several months. Mazigh and her husband were both on stage, and talked about her experiences fighting for Arar’s freedom, while struggling with suddenly having to take care of their young children all on her own. I really liked their talk, and Mazigh’s story was very powerful.

Hanan Turk’s talk was less impressive. First of all, she spoke only in Arabic, and in order to hear a translation, we had to rent headsets. (For those of you cringing at this as yet another example of non-Arab/non-Arabic-speaking Muslims ending up as second-class citizens at Muslim events, yeah, I’m with you.) For reasons I can’t exactly remember, a friend and I ended up sitting through her whole talk, despite the fact that neither of us understands much Arabic, and we didn’t want to pay to rent the headsets. What I got out of her talk was basically that she had been searching for happiness in her life as an actress, but eventually found happiness instead in connecting to her Islamic faith. A big part of the talk focused on her decision to start wearing hijab, and how important this was to her.

Hanan Turk. Image via conference website.
Hanan Turk. Image via conference website.

To be clear, I’m not contesting Turk’s opinions on hijab, or challenging the importance of the headscarf in the beliefs and practices of many Muslim women. She certainly did sound as if becoming more religious (and her decision to express this through wearing a scarf) has had a really important effect in her life, and alhamdulillah, that’s awesome. What drives me crazy though is that the one main featured female speaker was, first of all, inaccessible to a large part of the audience (because of language); second, that while all the male speakers were focused on broader issues, hers was a fairly simple personal narrative; and third, that the emphasis on hijab made it seem like this is the most important part of a Muslim woman’s life and practice, or the most important action for Muslim women to do.

Last year’s RIS convention had a really good panel on why we need to move on from hijab conversations towards talking about bigger issues, so this talk felt like a bit of a regression from last year. It was just so essentialist, as if the best thing that a Muslim woman can do is put on a headscarf. Sigh. I mean, if this represents such a big accomplishment, then there were thousands (literally) of girls there who could have been up on stage telling their own stories of why they wear the scarf. Of all the amazing Muslim women out there in the world, they had to pick someone whose main accomplishment seems to be that she left the world of acting to become a practising, hijab-wearing Muslim?

So, MMW readers, a question for you. Who would be on your wish list, if you were to go to a conference? Which female scholars, activists, writers, etc., would you like to see?

December 19, 2008

  • Forward Magazine profiles Asmahan.
  • The Christian Science Monitor highlights an Iraqi theater group led by Ghada Hussein Al Almy.
  • The 15-year-old Iraqi girl who was arrested before she carried out a suicide bombing speaks.
  • I can’t believe I didn’t include this in an earlier link list, because I really loved this article. Mona El Tahawy writes about racism in the Arab world.
  • Iraqi police say that the Nahla Hussein al-Shaly, the leader of the women’s league of the Kurdish Communist Party, has been murdered. May Allah give her peace and justice.

MMW would like to give a special thanks to Hijab Style for providing us with a massive amount of links for this week and many others!

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December 18, 2008

I am a 21-year-old spinster.

Yes, a spinster at 21. In my country, although many many Egyptian women are delaying getting married until they’re in their mid-to-late twenties, society still looks at them with a critical, disapproving gaze.

“Men and women were made for one another. You are a sinister spinster.”

“Better a man’s shadow than that of a wall.”

Both are Arabic proverbs reiterated by mothers, aunties, grandmothers and even friends, the former meaning that women who don’t marry are labeled “spinsters,” and the latter meaning that any man is better than being single.

I hate the word spinster, as I’m sure any woman does. It’s definitely no female equivalent of bachelor. Wikipedia tells us spinsters have a reputation for:

Sexual and emotional frigidity, lesbianism, ugliness, frumpiness, depression, astringent moral virtue, and overly-pious religious devotion.

Nice. And in Egypt, where according to the latest statistics there are approximately 9-10 million spinsters over the age of 30, unmarried women are (alternatively) rejected, stigmatized, mocked, gossiped about, pitied and constantly reminded of what they’re missing out on.

Yomna Mokhtar. Image via AFP Cris Bouroncle, Middle East Times.
Yomna Mokhtar. Image via AFP Cris Bouroncle, Middle East Times.

Which is why 27-year-old Yomna Mokhtar’s facebook group Spinsters*/ Old Maids for Change is such a breath of fresh air. Mokhtar (pictured right) is a journalist at Al Yom al-Sabe’, a weekly Arabic newspaper, and she set up the group in May ’08. True, I don’t know how successful a Facebook group of 600 (and counting) trying to change the Egyptian mentality of “spinsters” is going to be, but at least it’s an effort. The group has a media spokesperson, a social advisor, a religious advisor, and a psychologist. Impressive.

The group logo (pictured below left) is of Bridget Jones, the thirtysomething London spinster the world has come to love. Bridget Jones at thirtysomething is an Egyptian women at twentysomething. The caption reads: Spinster: I think about how to put an end to it.

The group’s mission statement states they are:

The group's logo. Via Facebook.
The group's logo. Via Facebook.

A social movement that seeks to change the negative attitude towards every unmarried girl who finds herself facing two dead ends: either forced to get married to any man so she can get rid of the ‘spinster’ title that’s suffocating her, or maintaining her position, insisting on waiting until she finds the right guy and [in the meantime] dealing with the curses that society will throw at her.

We aren’t seeking to make men enemies […] nor are we calling on girls to boycott marriage. But we reject the idea that girls should get married under pressure from their families or societies or just to get rid of the title ‘spinster,’ [so they don’t] come back to their families […] carrying the label ‘divorcée.’

Discussion topics on the group include When spinsterhood is a choice, We won’t wear hijab or pray taraweeh [supplementary] prayers for the groom, Latest list of the groom’s demands, etc.

The first articles about the group were written in October within days of each other at Al-Lawha Online and at Al-Arabiya (the latter with hundreds of fascinating comments that offer great insight into Egyptian psyche and an interesting choice of picture. Though I disliked Mokhtar saying she is against semi-arranged marriages, which she says turn women into “cheap commodities.”)

A couple of weeks later, Mokhtar wrote a sarcastic column in the newspaper she works at, criticizing society for pressuring her friend so much about getting married that said friend had a nervous breakdown.

A couple of days later, an Egyptian forum posted a Q & A with Mokhtar. She told them:

My goal is to change the image of the spinster in our society, encouraging the woman not to isolate herself from it, and ingraining [in her] the idea that making the world a better place is not only through marriage and producing babies, but in improving your community through the abilities God gave you.

Unfortunately, the Q & A wasn’t exactly the best I’ve ever read. The reporter (who happens to be a man) asked her: “Why do you have such a negative idea about spinsters?” (duh, it’s not her, it’s Egypt), “Why did you use the words ‘for change,’ which are used by political movements?” (conspiracy theory much?), “Does your movement rebel against the the idea of marriage?” and most infuriating of all:

Why don’t you try changing the image of the spinster by trying to fix the behavior of some women who have helped give spinsters a bad name?

Thankfully, she pwnd him:

Your question encapsulates exactly the view of society towards women whose marriage date was delayed, who look at her as the girl with a bad reputation, and this is the viewpoint we are fighting against. Especially since a lot of [unmarried] women […] hold the highest educational degrees and the highest positions. But no, society begrudges them their success and considers it a way of compensating for delaying marriage.

A couple of days later, The Daily News Egypt picked up on the story from the Arabic media. In the article, Mokhtar said she used the label ‘Spinsters’ in the group title though she’s against it, because “it is the term people use.”

I also believe that using a different label for unmarried women would just be ignoring the reality of the term. By using it, they’re trying, in some small way to “take it back.”

Two weeks after that article came out, the story made the Los Angeles Times, where the author interviewed Mokhtar and brought up two great points. One, that men are also joining the Facebook group, and two, that this is not the first time an Egyptian woman discussing the issues surrounding marriage does so online, with the first woman being the author behind the satirical blog wanna-be-a-bride.

[And I”m being kind of catty here, but this article’s translation of the group’s mission statement needs some serious work].

Then two days ago, The Agence France-Presse wrote about the group, finally snowballing it onto the global sphere. (English version and French version).

The article was pretty inclusive, and I particularly liked the fact it mentioned that marriage is an obligation for all Egyptians—Christians and Muslims alike. The author also interviewed a well-known sociologist, which gives Mokhtar’s opinions added weight, and stops anyone from brushing off her comments as the rantings of a bitter spinster. The author also pointed out that the group isn’t asking for the right to be single or crossing any of society’s “red lines.”

(Though I’m sure the fact that Mokhtar is veiled was very important to mention—you know, to prove that she’s not one of those morally decadent spinsters. As was adding that mass Islamic weddings are held with the aim of preventing “deviant” behavior (a.k.a., homosexuality and premarital sex), and not simply with the aim of helping those without funds get married).

Another French interview with Mokhtar was also published on the same day at Lepetitjournal with the title Spinster Girls: Objects of Mockery. My French is a little rusty, but as a journalist I loved the lead:

O la la! The poor girl! She’s still not married? But why? When will she start a family? She risks living the rest of her life alone, the poor girl!

And the comment: “Not getting married is an unforgivable mistake; refusing to marry a punishable crime!”

It was also a Q & A interview, and Mokhtar explained that Facebook is not enough for what the group wants to accomplish. In the future, they will be holding seminars to raise awareness and meetings where spinsters can talk about their experiences to their family in the presence of a psychologist.

I messaged Mokhtar on Facebook and asked her what she though of the media coverage thus far. She said:

I liked the western coverage more than the Arabic coverage, which I only dealt with superficially. [There’s been] other coverage in other print newspapers like Al-Masa’ and Rose al-Youssef. One reporter asked me if the role of the movement was to improve the behavior of unmarried women who don’t get married because of their bad behavior. I think the problem is not about the media outlet as much as it is the journalist. A good journalist, whether western or eastern, produces a good article.

I am feeling so inspired now. My new title = empowered spinster. Hmm, not really working for me. Bachelorette?

*The Arabic word used, ‘Anis, has several meanings in Arabic but is socially understood to mean spinster/ old maid.

December 12, 2008

  • At a get-together in Riyadh organized by the Hidayah Women’s Foundation, the head of HWF stated that “unearthing the skills and talents of the Muslim women and empowering them in the mainstream within the framework of Islamic principles, is the need of the hour.”
  • Malaysian women propose the creation of a bureau in the Malaysian government that will look after Muslim women’s welfare. More here.
  • The U.K. government sponsors an initiative that threatens those responsible for forced marriage with prison time.
  • French Elle chose Syria’s Asma al-Assad as the most stylish lady in international politics.
Thanks to Natasha for sending us this. You can find the contact info for the project at the webstite in the poster.
Thanks to Natasha for sending us this. You can find the contact info for the project at the webstite in the poster.
  • Indonesian domestic workers face abuse in other parts of Asia, too.
  • More on Saudi Arabia’s Rahma campaign, which highlights abuse of foreign workers.
  • The Independent reviews The Secret Life of Syrian Lingerie, which Yusra covered Wednesday. Via DeenPort.
  • In Nigeria, the Muslim Women Peace Forum group worries over the fate of women and children during the last crisis in Jos.
  • Speaking of collections, Muslim American designer Nzinga Knight will be having a cool presentation Thursday, December 18th. If you’re in the Brooklyn, New York area, hit her up! Information here.

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December 10, 2008

Salamu Alaikum,

It feels good to say that. I won’t answer my cell phone like that, but Salamu Alaikum from one Muslim sister to another, ain’t nothing wrong with that. One of the best ways of combating how the world perceives us, the poor Muslim female, the exotic Muslim female, the oppressed Muslim female, is to come together as a collective, united by our love for “the other.” As females, Muslim or not, hijabi or not, we are already “other.” That makes us more suited to understand one another. I won’t pretend to know what it feels like to be molested on a crowded train in Cairo day in and day out, or to debate polygamy with wife number three, but I hope I can at least offer sympathy and at best a little clarity. I’m a first generation Arab-American with my family coming from Libya. I hope to incorporate my knowledge of the region in my posts, which will be limited to the very many issues concerning Arab women around the world. I’m excited to be a part of this sisterhood, and I extend a handshake and a pat on the heart to all of our readers.

In solidarity with xoxos,

Yusra


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