Changes February 23, 2012


by Calulu

By now I’m sure you’ve noticed that I’ve started doing some of the posting of articles and am an admin on the NLQ message board.

Why? Change is in the wind and change can be a good thing. As an artist I try to embrace change. We’ve all been through some heavy duty changes or we wouldn’t even be on this site. To change is to grow.

Recently I hurt my back, been suffering the aches of sciatica up and down both of my legs and in my back. Now in my old drinking the koolaid part-fundamental part-evangelical life I would have gone to my church’s prayer warriors and they would have told me what they always told me when I got a terrible backache. They would tell me I needed to forgive someone because it was obvious to them that I was holding only pain, bitterness and unforgiveness in my back.

This time I went to the best back doctor in the area, I’ve had medical tests that show nerve impingement, not bitterness and hatred, causing the pain. I’m going to physical therapy, making the life changes I need to make and I’m swallowing a Flexeril and Vicodin cocktail to keep the pain at a dull roar. Even thinking about taking prescriptions back in those days would have been not possible. Right now I’m thanking any deity I can think of for these wonderful medications that keep me from screaming when I put on my shoes. A good change.

One of the good things that happens with the changes in posting is that this will free up Vyckie to do more writing for NLQ as well as other tasks. She’s the heart and soul of this site and will always be. Just think of me as the site’s combination funny bone/right hand.

Speaking of Vyckie, she deserves a big old shout out and thank you for the years she’s run this site through health problems, child rearing, mud, flood, hell and high water. She’s one tough lady. What she’s been through would have killed a lesser person.

Now I’m going to plead and beg. If you look closely I’m down on my old creaky knees. Oh my back! We need writers, or non-writers, people to tell their stories, their true life stories as to how you’ve come to leave, stay, or expounding your thoughts upon patriarchal or fundamentalist type societal or religious structures. And I’m not just talking about abusive forms of Christianity. We’d love to post a series by someone from any perspective. I’m working on getting a series from a young woman in Pakistan who’s recently rejected her family’s religion of many generations. She’s a former Muslim.

If you want to talk to me about this or anything or just to tell me I’m a pathetic clown please feel free to email me at


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Calulu lives near Washington DC , was raised Catholic in South Louisiana before falling in with a bunch of fallen Catholics whom had formed their own part Fundamentalist, part Evangelical church. After fifteen uncomfortable years drinking that Koolaid she left nearly 6 years ago.  Her blog is Calulu – Roadkill on the Internet Superhighway

NLQ Recommended Reading …

Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce

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