Quoting Quiverfull: Children Rebel Why?

Quoting Quiverfull: Children Rebel Why? February 28, 2013

by Jay Younts at Shepherd Press – February 22, 2013

Children, then, come next. You are to train your children to know God and then prepare to leave your home. Yet, things get turned around. Husbands and wives often spend time attempting to change each other—to train each other, if you will. When the spouse doesn’t respond well to this “training,” then some conclude it is time to leave. Children, on the other hand, may be accommodated and not trained, and parents may want them to stay forever. In the end, for far too many families, both the spouses and children leave and nothing is left but relational rubble.

It is this relational rubble that can also lead to children becoming cynical and disaffected by Christianity. Children who have been the misplaced objects of worship by their parents cannot bear the weight of being idols for their parents. Children who are a means to their parents enjoyment and personal fulfillment will often despise the beliefs of their family and church. Children who have been relationally abandoned in the service of the god of performance will find no comfort in a gospel that appears to  be rigged in their parents favor.

These are also reasons children turn from God. Perhaps they are even the underlying reasons for the departure of youth from church. Parents, love God, love your spouse, and in love, prepare your children for the dangerous world that is waiting for them. Doing anything other than this will make your faith appear self-serving.  God deserves better than to be represented this way. Self-service will ultimately destroy you and your children. Attempting to save your life through your children will consume you and them. Do not live for your children. Live for God!

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Nea

    Children who are a means to their parents enjoyment and personal fulfillment

    Isn’t this the very definition of the whole quiverfull/stay at home daughters movement: adults using their own children to reflect the parent’s fecundity, religion, and techniques?

  • Persephone

    I’m thinking that children get cynical and disaffected by Christianity when they realize that their church is filled with hypocrites, and that their parents expect their children to prove how faithful their parents are. That and the regular beatings.

  • Kimberly

    If you have raised your children to be thinkers, there is a chance that they will think differently from you when they become adults! That includes having beliefs influenced by their experiences, friends, and teachers; but I believe parental views are stronger in the long-run. God has given every person free will–our children have the same. Our legalistic church and unthinking, fear-mongering, and Christian conservatives have driven my child from Christianity.