by Jay Younts at Shepherd Press – February 22, 2013
Children, then, come next. You are to train your children to know God and then prepare to leave your home. Yet, things get turned around. Husbands and wives often spend time attempting to change each other—to train each other, if you will. When the spouse doesn’t respond well to this “training,” then some conclude it is time to leave. Children, on the other hand, may be accommodated and not trained, and parents may want them to stay forever. In the end, for far too many families, both the spouses and children leave and nothing is left but relational rubble.
It is this relational rubble that can also lead to children becoming cynical and disaffected by Christianity. Children who have been the misplaced objects of worship by their parents cannot bear the weight of being idols for their parents. Children who are a means to their parents enjoyment and personal fulfillment will often despise the beliefs of their family and church. Children who have been relationally abandoned in the service of the god of performance will find no comfort in a gospel that appears to be rigged in their parents favor.
These are also reasons children turn from God. Perhaps they are even the underlying reasons for the departure of youth from church. Parents, love God, love your spouse, and in love, prepare your children for the dangerous world that is waiting for them. Doing anything other than this will make your faith appear self-serving. God deserves better than to be represented this way. Self-service will ultimately destroy you and your children. Attempting to save your life through your children will consume you and them. Do not live for your children. Live for God!
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