Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Your Father’s Heart?

Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Your Father’s Heart? May 21, 2013

by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters – “Visionary Daughters Interviewed”

We see a particular need for girls to build better relationships with their fathers, as the effects of this relationship spill over into so many other areas of their lives — they way they view God, the way they relate to men, the way they view themselves, the decisions they make regarding family, and more. In our generation, we are seeing a fundamental disconnect between fathers and children, and daughters are suffering from this lack of fatherly guidance, involvement, affection, affirmation, and protection. We’ve also seen committed daughters win the hearts of their indifferent fathers and build a wonderful relationship that transformed the entire family. In Malachi 4:6, the Bible instructs us in the importance of “turn[ing] the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers,” and that is one of the greatest goals of our ministry.

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  • NeaDods

    Hands up, everyone who finds INCREDIBLY creepy that these girls talk about winning their father’s heart and never mention their mother’s existence at all. Have the Botkins ever heard of the Electra Complex?

  • Donsie

    The citation from the Bible has been twisted away from its original meaning. The passage is talking about what (the returned) Elijah will do before the Judgement Day, not what God commands people to undertake on their own just at this moment.

    In the KJV it goes like this:

    4:5 Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: 4:6 And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.

  • Christine in Australia

    We’ve also seen committed daughters win the hearts of their indifferent fathers
    where, in Elsie Dinsmore?

  • It’s always comforting to be reminded that if you have a less-than-great relationship with your “indifferent” dad (or mom, for that matter), it’s because you didn’t try hard enough.

  • Lyn

    Are these Fathers always blameless? This is super sick. Just sayin’.

  • NeaDods

    Of course they are blameless. Because once you have both a penis and a wedding ring, you become God.

  • mayarend

    I think that once you have a penis you become “God”. Once you get the wedding ring, you get disciples (cough slaves cough).

  • Nightshade

    Exactly. They seem to have completely missed the concept of appropriate boundaries.

  • Why is it the daughter’s job to seek the relationship with her father? As far as I’m aware, the general father-daughter dynamic begins when the father is an adult and the daughter is an infant, so shouldn’t the father be the one who initiates and sets the tone for the relationship? I spent the first twenty-five years of my life desperately trying to get my father to have a good relationship with me, and it was only after he died and I had some distance from his influence in my life that I realized that the problems in our relationship were entirely one-sided and that my desperate and pathetic attempts to curry favor were part of his mind games. He is the one who was an adult for the entire length of the relationship, and it was up to him to set the tone and create the environment for healthy communication and interactions.

    Is it just me, or does anyone else think that Christian Patriarchy is a hotbed for narcissistic personality disorders?

  • texcee

    This just seem so incestuous to me! Ewwwww!