Quoting Quiverfull: What is a Christian Homemaker?

Quoting Quiverfull: What is a Christian Homemaker? July 5, 2013

by Jennifer from her blog The Focused Homemaker

In our feministic culture we may not know what a homemaker truly is and what she truly does.  Have you recently quit your job to become a full-time homemaker?  Maybe you’ve recently married or just had your first child and won’t be returning to college.  In any case, my desire today is to encourage homemakers, new and “old-pro” alike.

What Does She Do All Day?

Oh that question can become bothersome, can’t it?  It assumes there is little to do at home.  It suggests homemaking to be second-class and of little value.  In a practical sense a homemaker rises, sometimes early in the morning just as the Proverbs 31 woman did.  Sometimes a bit later if she has a new baby, sick children or just needs that bit of extra sleep.

She joyfully picks her husband’s socks up off the floor, thankful for a man to bless and serve.  She makes breakfast for her family and thinks about what she’ll prepare for dinner, perhaps taking frozen meat out to thaw.  She warmly greets her children and changes diapers if there are little ones in the home.

She sees her husband off to work with a smile and a kiss, then sets about getting the children and herself ready for the day.  She shares God’s word with her family and teaches them in the ways of the LORD all throughout the day. (Deut. 6)

She has a child or two help her prepare lunch in an effort to train her daughters in the arts of homemaking, or to instill the value of a homemaking wife in her sons.  She might nurse the baby or put her small children down for an afternoon nap.  Maybe taking one herself so she can be rested and productive for late afternoon and evening.

She spends time talking with her children, answering their questions and exhorting them to righteousness.  She plans menus, runs errands and finds ways to stick to the budget to be a blessing to her family.

Perhaps she ministers to others outside of her home by visiting with her neighbors occasionally, taking the kids to see their grandparents, writing a letter to an overwhelmed friend or even using the internet to bless the lives of others, while taking care to not neglect her first ministry at home.

As her day fades into evening, she prepares the evening meal and eagerly awaits the arrival of her husband.  She and her children tidy up the house and clean themselves up a bit before Daddy gets home.  She knows the value of a peaceful home, yet realizes that joyful noises from happy children don’t make a home any less peaceful.

Her family enjoys a meal together, that nourishes and refreshes.  After dinner, clean up and perhaps baths for the babies, the family delights in spending time with Dad or hearing him read from the Bible.   Soon, she’ll be kissing children goodnight, praying over them and even offering a song.

She looks forward to laying next to her husband in blissful sleep for the next 6-8 hours (even if interrupted by a hungry baby throughout the night).  And as she lays her head on the pillow for the night she is thankful.  Thankful for her husband, for her children, for her home and her God who provides for her family.  And thankful for the divine calling of wife and mother.  She falls asleep knowing her place in her home is not replaceable, and is enthusiastic about waking the next morning for another day to serve the LORD by serving her family.

She is a Homemaker

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Dear readers, what part of your day or days as a stay at home mom did she forget to mention?


QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Theo Darling


  • persephone

    Being a SAHM is a fulltime job. It’s hard work and it deserves respect. This kind of post doesn’t show respect. The JOY doctrine seems to be the basis for.this post. The woman rises before the husband, works all day around the home–anyone who has had children knows you can’t rely on them to be on a schedule (although maybe they do blanket training) and naps are a gift. The husband comes home and the wife is still working, keeping the kids away from him so he can relax, serves and cleans up after dinner, then goes to bed and provides sex to her husband.

    There’s no reciprocation from the husband, and she expects none. I’m sure weekends are an extended version of mom running around, keeping the kids busy, and catering to her husband. And he doesn’t even notice. And she expects nothing.

    This is just wrong.

  • gimpi1

    She makes this sound (sarcasm alert) SOO WONDERFUL! (End sarcasm alert.)

    Seriously, are there really people who see this as their goal? No help. No appreciation. No respect. A life of unending drudgery. What’s wrong with both parents working together to care for their kids? What’s wrong with kids getting out of the damn house and learning things from other people? What’s wrong with a wife and mother having interests outside the home?

    I guess this wouldn’t be a problem, if I trusted the people who write this kind of thing to let the rest of us go our own way. I view it as a problem because I don’t. Does anyone?

  • Madame

    She joyfully picks up her husbands socks from the floor…

    I can’t remember doing that once. I guess I’m not a Homemaker (with a capital H) after all.

  • Saraquill

    I take issue with the comment about the housewife being irreplacable. Isn’t the purpose of daughters in these homes to serve as back up mothers when their mom is too worn out from constant pregnancies to get out of bed? To say nothing of when the housewife’s health tanks because she was taught that so much as getting a glass of water when she needs it makes her a horrible person.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    My reaction exactly! Heee

  • Independent Thinker

    I also noticed her “day” doesn’t include anything that complicated. Where is the two hours on the phone with the bank due to a fraudulent charge on the bank account or driving half way across town to pick up a friend or family member from the airport then ending up stuck on the interstate all afternoon because of an accident? It must be nice to live on fantasy island where your biggest problem is whether or not to thaw out chicken or fish.

  • Baby_Raptor


    I wish my biggest issue was “I wonder what Roomie wants for dinner?”

  • Trollface McGee

    It kind of strikes me how there’s very little human to human interaction. No discussions with the hubby about anything just some nice greetings, prayers and of course, scripted praises as not to damage that fragile man-ego. No actual talking with the kids about their lives or dreams or hopes, just prayers, chores and orders to smile and be cheerful. It just seems so empty and fake and so devoid of anything that builds long-lasting family bonds, just people sticking to their roles.

  • lg61820

    She failed to mention the parts about being so depressed that the Homemaker consumed an entire box of Little Debbie snacks she had purchased “for the kids”.

  • Bryony

    It’s amazing how she manages to make this whole thing simultaneously syrupy sweet and horribly depressing. I mean, my mom was a SAHM and truly enjoyed it, but it certainly wasn’t this dreamy, idyllic vision.

    And she left out the bit where the kids won’t stop screaming and you find yourself wondering about the efficacy and legality of duct-taping them to a wall. >.<

  • jhlee

    “What’s wrong with both parents working together to care for their kids?
    What’s wrong with kids getting out of the damn house and learning things
    from other people? What’s wrong with a wife and mother having interests
    outside the home?”

    Because that’s all evidently part of “feministic culture.” The Quiverfull people don’t seem to realize that the predominancy of the sole-breadwinner-husband and full-time-mother-wife model was pretty much a 20th-century fluke. It is certainly not the “old” way of doing things. The virtuous woman in Proverbs is clearly working outside the home and is firmly in the stream of commerce, buying and selling commodities like fields and cloth. There’s no mention of her husband intervening in any of her affairs–how “feministic” of her! It’s also stated that her husband trusts and praises her, not treats her as his own personal servant.

  • modScheherazade

    I think I threw up in my mouth reading this.

    “joyfully” picking up socks off of the floor?! I hate this kind of homemaking crap. It’s taking a narrow (VERY narrow), culturally limited view of a woman’s role and extrapolating it across all of Christianity and that irritates me greatly.