Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Allow Any Emotional Moments?

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Allow Any Emotional Moments? August 26, 2013

by Zsuzsanna Anderson of Are They All Yours? – Q & A Answers Part 2

How do you deal with (1) whining/complaining, (2) arguing with parental directions, (3) poor attiudes (sulking, etc.) in response to chores, food, parental decisions, etc., (4) tantrums.


All of the above are a lot easier to avoid, than to deal with. We do not permit whining, complaining, arguing, sulking, tantrums, sibling fighting, rudeness, etc. We avoid them by teaching why such attitudes and behaviors are wrong, and then punishing them if they occur. As a result, these episodes are few and far between, to the betterment of every member of the family.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Baby_Raptor

    I recognize that sometimes, kids are just brats. But other times, tantrums are a baby/younger toddler’s way of saying “I’m over-stimulated or tired and need a nap.” And that’s something she, as their mother, should be able to read and appropriately handle. Instead, she just tells them that all tantrums are bad, and any actions that inconvenience her get them punished.

    This woman is so self-centered it’s sickening. It all revolves around her.

  • Lolly

    The beatings will continue until morale improves. I know, I know, it’s such an obvious comment.

  • Poor kids. Mommy’s happiness trumps kid’s emotional well-being. What a lovely lesson to pass on.
    Do these mothers stop to think that their (potentially) emotionally stunted kids will be parents themselves one day?

  • lodrelhai

    And yet, so true. My mom’s version of it was, “If you don’t stop crying, I’ll give you something to cry about.” Of course, once we’d been given the “something to cry about” (a spanking), we were still expected to stop crying immediately.

  • texcee

    Because parents don’t want justice — they want QUIET! (as said by Bill Cosby)

  • NeaDods

    Presumably the message is “once you have kids of your own, you can be the one in control. Until then what you need doesn’t matter; I’m the only important one here.”

  • Which is scary. I dated a guy that grew up in an environment like Lolly mentioned above. He had no drive, no emotions, and was a master manipulator. I’m still convinced he was a sociopath.
    I just wish parents (not just QF/P) would realize that how they treat their kids has a direct influence on how those kids turn out as adults.

  • Baby_Raptor

    Of course she does. And she expects her kids to treat her grandkids like she did them.

    Libby from Love, Joy Feminism has written about growing up in a fundie household, and then leaving fundiedom and deciding to raise her kids differently, and how her parents warned her she wasn’t going to be a god mother because she wasn’t doing it their way. From what she’s written of her 2, I expect that they’ll turn out much happier about their childhoods than she idd.

  • SJ Reidhead

    I don’t get these people. Why is she so important that she needs a question and answer session about her wonderful family? Then again, I may be overly emotional.


  • NeaDods

    I bet that if others people thought he was good and hedidn’t leave the church, they would think he was raised right, sadly.

  • Exactly.