Quoting Quiverfull: Problems Facing Homeschoolers?

Quoting Quiverfull: Problems Facing Homeschoolers? August 12, 2013

From Persevero News an interview with Michael Moody of Forge Ministries – Engage the Battle

What is the greatest problem you see facing homeschoolers in particular?

Thousands and thousands of families are homeschooling but many have no foundation. Parents are choosing to home educate for a number of reasons: they want their child to excel academically; they want their child sheltered from drugs and kept safe; they want to give their child individual attention because of a learning disability; and some parents want to pass along their own morals/beliefs. These are all good reasons to home educate but if you don’t have the correct foundation, all these great ideas, all these reasons to keep your child home, will mean nothing. If you want your child to attend an Ivy League school, you may get them into Harvard but where is his heart? You may keep your child safe and away from the bullies and peer pressure but how does she cope with pain, heartache, and death when she’s on her own? You may be able to teach your child to read but what will he be learning?

The foundation that we need to lay is built upon the Lord Jesus Christ. Deuteronomy 6:4-9 commands us to love the Lord our God, and then teach your children how to love Him too. Jesus Christ says in Matthew 22:37 that “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment.”

Homeschooling parents across the country are finding with shock that their second generation: the children they homeschooled and raised in the faith, are leaving homeschooling, and, in some cases, even leaving the faith itself. We believe that part of the reason for this is that these parents have not truly built on the right foundation. Christ assures us that a house, built on the wrong foundation (or no foundation at all) will be washed away when the storms come.

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  • I’m a wee bit confused as to how these religious homeschooling families can squeeze more Jesus in.

  • Trollface McGee

    Responsible home schooling requires a great investment of time, effort and money. Something not all families can or want to do – especially if their home schooling experiences left them inadequately prepared for adult life.

  • Lynn

    And I’m pretty sure their kids aren’t bailing because there wasn’t enough Jesus!

  • Madame

    I can give him a few reasons why the children aren’t homeschooling.
    1. They want something different -or better in some cases- for their children.
    2. They don’t feel prepared to homeschool.

    3. They just don’t want to homeschool!
    4. The very thought of homeschooling brings back horrible memories from their childhood….

    I can give him a few reasons why young adults leave the faith.
    1. They never truly believed in the first place.
    2. They may have examined the faith they were raised in and found it lacking.

    3. They need space to find out what it is they believe. They may come back, they may find a way that they find more consistent with the idea that God is love.
    4. They may not be leaving the faith at all, just your particular flavor of it.

    All these things can happen in families that did their very best to be as Jesus centered, Jesus serving, others loving, everyone accepting. It can happen in families where the parents sacrificed everything for the sake of the gospel.

    But it definitely happens in families where parents don’t allow their children to reason, question and develop their own faith. It definitely happens in families where parents expect their children to fake it till they make it. Where appearances are more important than truth and love.

  • Em

    It’s all pretty manipulative, the system remains above question, but the ones who “fail” just didn’t apply it right. Try harder, do better, stay on the treadmill, if it doesn’t work for you it’s clearly your fault.

  • NeaDods

    We believe that part of the reason for this is that these parents have not truly built on the right foundation.

    Because god forbid we look at the system we’ve built and realize it may need some work.

  • NeaDods

    Where appearances are more important than truth and love.

    Appearances! I see so much emphasis in the Pearl writings and others on appearances over reality – as if how you appear to the rest of the church is more important than *anything else* in the world, including an honest faith.

  • persephone

    Admitting error doesn’t sell homeschool programs.

  • Christine

    I cannot believe the judgement in this statement! You failed because you didn’t do it right. The whole system is based in fear.

  • I actually believe that “Christian” home schooling needs more Jesus: Jesus did not come to the world to condemn, to punish immediately. He had mercy. That is unlike the Pearls training methods..
    Jesus wants each of us to love him first and therefore follow him for ourselves, and does not rely on externals. Too many home schooling parents leave out the love part and worry about external following, for the sake of their image.
    Jesus did not come to lord it over, but to serve. How wonderful if parents in home schooling take his example – towards both their children and each other.
    Jesus wants a personal relationship, and some home schoolers treat their children as a quiver of arrows or as one of two (male and female) cookie cutter molds, not as individuals.
    Jesus called us to go into all the world and make disciples, and loved the whole world – parents should not stay only at home and isolate their children, but love the world and help children to do the same.
    Jesus came with no political agenda, and never wanted political power. He never taught dominionism.

  • Fledgeling Feminist

    1) No True Scotsman Fallacy. Everywhere.

    2) What a COLD below-the-belt hit on parents who bled money on fundamentalist materials and survived on one income to raise their kids “the right way.” I don’t agree with what my parents did, but I do know they did everything “the hard way” because they thought it would help their kids.

    3) It shows these teachers are willing to outright dump and unload anyone whose experience shows the gawd-awful results of their tripe.
    4) This is a terrible application of Jesus’ parable. It wasn’t meant for one group teaching another. You can’t build another person’s foundation, not in the way He meant.

    All my teen years, I wanted to marry another homeschooler and start the whole fundamentalist homeschooling process over again. That was my literal goal. I was his success story.

    And then I woke up.

  • Madame

    Excellent post, Retha!

    So much of QF-P is all about conforming people from the outside in, denying people their individuality, and forcing everyone into molds. It’s awful, and not the way Jesus treated those around him at all.

  • This has been my criticism of Mormonism, too. They preach nearly the same gender roled nonsense. QF is just a bit more extreme.

  • texcee

    The blind leading the blind until the whole world cannot see. Perhaps the homeschooled kids are not homeschooling their own kids because they realized how ignorant they are. How can you formally educate your kids when you are barely educated yourself? My neighbor homeschooled her six kids and finally gave it up as a miserable failure. She didn’t even finish high school. My cousin’s daughter homeschools her kids, although she too is a high school drop out. What have these kids learned? I wouldn’t have had the gall to try to homeschool my own daughter, although I have a college degree and post-graduate work. The more I know, the more I realized I DON’T know. Education should be done by professionals with parents supplying factual information to supplement that education.