Fundamentalist Flashbacks

Fundamentalist Flashbacks November 21, 2013

by Jonny Scaramanga cross posted from his blog Leaving Fundamentalism

(Editor’s note: Welcome Jonny to NLQ and the SASBN! We’re glad to have you here!)

I recently woke up in the middle of the night, gripped by a sudden panic. What if I’m wrong?

If I’m wrong, I’m going to hell.

I’ve spent the last several years campaigning to raise public awareness of fundamentalist Christian schools that I consider abusive. I went to such a school myself, so I have a dog in this fight. If what they taught me is true, then I have spent these years fighting against God himself.

The fear claws at me for a while, and then in my groggy state I manage to remember some stuff:

If the strict Muslims are right, I’m equally doomed whether I’m a Christian or an atheist, yet that has never given me a moment’s worry in my life. My fear is not spiritual, or rational. It’s cultural.

And anyway, the notion of a just and/or loving God sending me to infinite punishment for finite sins is self-contradictory. It can’t be true.

Panic over, I go back to sleep.

I haven’t believed in God for seven years. I’ve openly identified as an atheist for four of those, but there are still situations where I have flashbacks to my fundamentalist past.

I’ve visited the Natural History Museum in London twice in the last year. It’s a fantastic place for anyone, but it’s incredible if you used to be a Creationist. All this information that most people take for granted is new to me. Reading it is like inhaling oxygen after holding my breath for twenty years.

And yet…

My first reaction on reading any date older than 4000 B.C. is to start denying it. It’s a reflex. I can’t help it. “Four billion years? They can’t possibly know that! That’s just speculation. How do they know their dating methods are reliable?” The thoughts come piling into my head before I have a chance to engage my brain. Fortunately, scientists have to answer those questions, and their responses are more interesting than “it was a miracle.”

My automatic reaction to my first ten sexual encounters was guilt. Rationally, I knew that sex was nothing mystical. Between consenting adults, it should be a mutually enjoyable experience. But I was conditioned to think that it was only acceptable within a Christian marriage (and even then only within certain limits). I couldn’t turn those thoughts off.

I remember sitting on the edge of the bed as my first girlfriend looked at me.

“You’re sad,” she said, looking at my hunched up body.

“No, I’m not,” I insisted. “I’m glad we did that.” I really wanted it to be true.

“It’s all over your face,” she replied, and she couldn’t help taking it as rejection. The relationship lasted two weeks after that.

I’m mostly better now. I’m doing a PhD which requires me to read a lot of Creationist mumbo-jumbo, and occasionally it still wears me down. I’ll be knee-deep in some obscure point of biology, and a Creationist will raise some objection I haven’t heard before. Crap, I think, what if they’re right? Then I remember. Even if Creationists have found a genuine problem for the theory of evolution – on their millionth attempt – that is no evidence for Creationism. I’ve momentarily fallen for the ridiculous argument that if evolution were proven false, literal readings of Genesis would be vindicated. This is like saying that if modern physics turns out to be flawed, Star Trek would be proven true.

But one good thing has emerged from all of this: At least I now question all my beliefs. When I was a Creationist, I didn’t stop for a moment to consider that I might be wrong. I knew I was right. Allowing the possibility that I might be wrong keeps me honest. By making me suppress problems which I knew were real, fundamentalism forced me to be dishonest with myself.

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I’m Jonny Scaramanga. I grew up believing the Bible was the literal Word of God. I was part of the ‘Word of Faith’ prosperity gospel, and I spent my formative years enthusiastically tipping my money into the offering buckets of Rolls-Royce driving televangelists. I went to an Accelerated Christian Education school, and now I mainly blog to raise awareness of these two malignant forces. I’m doing a PhD at the Institute of Education, London, looking at why it is that some people raised with ACE reject the faith, and others remain in fundamentalism.

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  • texcee

    Welcome, Jonny. Wonderful essay and I agree with you totally. While I went to public schools, I was raised in a fundy home and grew up with the same fairy tales. When I got into college, it was like stepping through a doorway into another world. My fundy family was often a great source of amusement to me. I can remember an aunt declaring in an increduous voice, “Do you know that they say there were actually people BEFORE Adam and Eve?” I had to leave the room before I started laughing uncontrollably. On the other hand, the belligerant ultrafundies in the family enraged me to the point that I basically cut them out of my life. Such militant ignorance makes me want to tear out my hair and scream! Anyway, good to have you here and hope to read more of your blogs!

  • Thanks for the welcome, texcee. I like this place already. And your aunt sounds fun.

  • Nightshade

    You hit the nail square on the head there, for some of us that ‘what if’ is extremely difficult if not impossible to eradicate, worse than pulling weeds in a garden.