Quoting Quiverfull: So Many Children You Cannot Remember Their Names?

Quoting Quiverfull: So Many Children You Cannot Remember Their Names? January 16, 2014

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Whoever You Are, Let’s Go

Are you as guilty as me? Whenever I would address one of my children, I would usually have to say all the names before I got to the right one!

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  • JeanPing

    Everybody does that. I have two kids and I do that. When I had one, I called her by my baby sister’s name half the time.

  • I’m from a large family (though not Quiverfull – my parents just really liked kids) and that happens all the time. It’s certainly not unique to large families, but when they are more of us, it can take longer to eventually get around to the right name.

  • Brennan

    My mom only has one son (my brother). In moments of frustration, she would occasionally call him by *her* brother’s name. And once when she was upset with our Bichon, she called the dog by my brother’s name (the dog’s real name was “Frosty,” and my brother’s name is . . . not even slightly similar to that). So, yeah, some people just can’t keep names straight and it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the number of kids.

  • Nightshade

    Wasn’t it Erma Bombeck who called it kidfusion?

  • Levedi

    To be fair, I only have one child and I have called him by the cat’s name. And vice versa. Being really tired or frazzled will do that to you.

  • lodrelhai

    I agree with other responses – this is a frazzled-parent thing. My brother repeatedly complained when we were growing up that if my mom saw me do something wrong, she’d yell his name before correcting herself. (She did it in reverse too, so I didn’t have much sympathy for him.)

    It actually got me out of trouble once, because she yelled his name, then the cat’s name, THEN mine, and he immediately wailed, “See? Even the cat gets in trouble before her!” Which set my mom off laughing, and while she apologized to him, she never did get back to scolding me.

  • Nea

    That’s hilarious! Me, I was usually called a mashup; first syllable my brother’s name, second syllable mine. There were only the two of us.

  • Nea

    I suppose it would utterly derail the conversation to say this is so prevalent that it doesn’t just involve kids. Christine Lavin used to sing a song titled “Don’t Ever Call Your Sweetheart By His Name” to handle… similar faux pas.

  • B.E. Miller

    Well, I don’t have kids, but I do that with my cats and dogs. I even get their sexes mixed up. I’m always calling the female dog “boy” and the male cat “girl”. I don’t know why.

  • Madame

    Hahah! That’s funny!
    I have three children and I mix up their names all the time too.
    We were 10, and my dad just called out all our names whenever he wanted one of us to come and do something. By the time we all arrived, he had jobs for all of us!

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    LMAO! I stand corrected! Missed the boat on this one! Thanks for keeping me honest… I usually don’t mix up my kids names and was thinking this was some sort of QF problem of having a whole pile of children’s names to keep straight!

  • Mel

    My mother-in-law does that with her three sons + one similar age male cousin. She confuses her one daughter with a similar age female cousin. She also confuses the names of both of her daughters – in – law. It’s pretty cute and we all just go with it.

  • akb111

    Heck, I sometimes call my *husband* by the cat’s name! Usually first thing in the morning . . .

  • Anon_UW

    This still happens with my mom even now that my brother and I are 21 and 23 and we only have one pet!

    “Eric! TORI! Bill! I mean, Gretchen! Come pick this up!”

  • aim2misbehave

    I do that with roommates, both current and past, sometimes – I’m like “Sarah- Cassie- Jess- Roommate! whoever you are!” and some of my roommates who’ve lived with lots of people over their lives will do this too.

  • mayarend

    My mom mixes up the dog’s name and my boyfriend’s name… (Ok, I do it too, sometimes… But mostly when I’m mad) And I’m an only child (besides the dog)

  • B.E. Miller

    Why am I suddenly remembering that stand up routine of Bill Cosby’s, where he talks about his kids and his parents? (It’s pretty old, his kids are like 7,4 and 2.)

    But he mentions how for the longest time he and his brother thought that their names were Jesus Christ and Dammit, respectively.
    Then one day, Bill was playing in the rain, and his dad yelled “Dammit, get inside!” (Something like that.)
    Cosby says “Daddy, I’m Jesus Christ.” You can hear the audience screaming with laughter at that.

  • 0000

    This happens to me with my friends and family (no, I’m not a mom). I once called my cousin Aragorn, then Legolas, then finally his real name.