Quoting Quiverfull: Sweetness & Light Always?

Quoting Quiverfull: Sweetness & Light Always? January 27, 2014

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – We Can’t Get Away With It

Life is like a boomerang. What we say and do will always come back to us. We can’t get away with anything. What we sow into our family life we will reap, not only in this life, but in generations to come. Our attitude and the words we speak (or don’t speak if it is the “silent treatment”) into our husband and children’s lives will reap a harvest of blessing or ultimate destruction.

We know God’s Word in Galatians 6:7 which says, “Be not deceived: God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” We don’t always reap immediately. Sometimes it takes years (maybe ten, twenty, or even thirty years) before the boomerang comes back, but it always does. The words of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow stand true, “Though the mills of God grind slowly; Yet they grind exceeding small; Though with patience he stands waiting, With exactness grinds he all”.

We see an example of this in 2 Samuel 21 where God sent three years of famine in the time of King David. David enquired of the Lord and God told him it was because Saul slew the Gibeonites with whom Joshua had made a covenant not to destroy them. Joshua had been dead for many years. Saul was now dead and I guess no one remembered the covenant Joshua had made so many years ago. But, God remembered. and retribution had to be made.

I have watched wives sow hate and discontentment and yet they wonder why their marriage eventually crumbles. We cannot reap a harvest of love if we don’t sow love and kindness.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Nea

    These quotes are always word salads. What is the actual point here? That wives who speak out of turn ruin their marriages? Or to instill the fear that speaking out of turn will ruin your marriage and your kids and grand kids or whatever? Pick a point and prove it, don’t just ramble!

    God remembered. and retribution had to be made.

    … In the lives of people who had committed no crime, and were so far removed they didn’t even know the crime. That God has sucky aim, no time sense, and less sense of proportion. “I’m pissed off, so I’m going to kick back, relax, and then ruin the lives of someone utterly random.”

    And people wonder why I refuse to consider that worthy of worship.

  • $190147

    That you reap what you sow is a lesson I wish conservatives would learn. I wish they would invite it indoors and let it stay awhile, like a pet. I wish they would quit automatically counting on God to propel them out of every mess they create and then chivvy and drive the rest of us into. The principle that if you set out to raise poppies you don’t end up with fig trees and that sycamores don’t produce acorns is a powerful one and I wish conservatives would not limit it, as they appear to do, to the relationship between husbands and wives. (The seventeen-dollar word for that is “privatization”, and privatization is a process by means of which Those Who Have Not can dependably be deprived of What Little They Have. Hence its popularity, IMO, in certain circles.)

    It’s true enough that if you’re not nice to the people you live around, they have more of an incentive not to be nice to you. It’s also true that if you try to force your kids into virtue they’ll only be virtuous when forced. It’s also true that if you keep women mired in circumstances in which rationality is of no use to them, they’ll turn out to be unreasonable. It’s also true that if you teach people, male or female, that rules are inflexible but also capricious, the people (of both sexes) who learn this lesson will be undependable — they themselves can trust nothing, so why should anybody else expect to rely on them? People who learn that God is cruel and nothing else will end up shunning him. Companies who only worry about investors will not prosper, however much titular money they make; political figures who spend their time dreaming about being their own monuments will have their prayers answered in the very worst way, and executives who sell out their workers will end up being despised by the people they let down. And rightly so.

    There’s no end to these examples, all of them equally valid. Which makes it weird that the ones fundagelicals like to avail themselves of pertain so exclusively to private life. Why work it that way? What’s up with that? Why pick out as your laughingstocks, as your bad examples, the sinners who are least likely to have had control over their circumstances and over the kind of environments in which they committed their wrongs? Why not go after bigger game? Do you really think you’re going to draw down heaven to earth by telling married women not to be mean? Not that married women should be mean. But surely God didn’t set his mills going just to grind up them alone. Surely God plans to render to the mills many other breeds of miscreants, who need warning-off as much as nagging wives ever did. (Or, dare I suggest it, even more.)

  • Nightshade

    ‘But, God remembered. and retribution had to be made.’ So much for a loving, forgiving God…

  • Astrin Ymris

    One of the more curious phenomena in the Religious Right is their inability to recognize the internal discrepancies in their belief system.

  • Trollface McGee

    So basically… she believes in karma but that’s an evil heathen word so she needs three paragraphs to make it sound nice and Christian… not that karma is a bad thing…
    Of course she has to come back to the duty of wives to be nice and sweet no matter what their husbands do… because Jesus and vagina or something.

  • Edie Moore McGee

    Reaping and sowing, or karma by another name, is a universal principle. It doesn’t just apply to wives.

  • In the world of Nancy Campbell and Debi Pearl, do men ever do anything wrong?