True Love Loves All Families and Even Women Part 1

True Love Loves All Families and Even Women Part 1 February 22, 2014

by Suzanne cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn’t Rape

Vaughn Ohlman has posted over at his blog True Love Doesn’t Wait about families and the Bible, that families must glorify God and fathers are to rule over their families, right down many generations. He claims that the church is somehow ‘feminized’ and that men have been stripped of their masculinity.

There’s just one problem, I’m not seeing much scriptural support for his extrapolations of Biblical law.

Let’s look at how Jesus treated women during his time here on planet earth. His actions show that he was the first feminist to many of us.

  • He dared speak to the loose woman at the well, a behavior that was forbidden under Jewish law and society of that time. He didn’t slut-shame her, or ignore her or treat her with disdain as the Pharisees of that time would have. He treated her as an equal before telling her he was the Messiah.


  • What of the woman being stoned by the religious leaders of the day? He saved her life by challenging those that would have killed her to only allow those who had not sinned to throw the stone. After everyone departed he spoke to the woman, again a forbidden act under Jewish law at the time and sent her on her way. Told to go and sin no more, Jesus refused to judge her for her adultery.


  • Jesus was supported by women, women that raised the money for His ministry to keep going on. They weren’t apostles, they kept to the background, like geckos hiding behind frangipani on a lanai wall. Essential but not in the spotlight. They did some of the more practical work of running everything. Check out Luke.

All of this is in the Bible. Jesus treated the women that He interacted with the same as the men, therefore making Him the first feminist or, at the very least someone that thought the sexes were equal.

Von also talks of how ‘broken’ the family is compared to the Biblical model, calling modern families ‘bastardized families’. Let’s look at those Biblical families.

  • Loads of polygamist families, including the family of King David.
  • Moses was adopted into a family not his own.
  • Widows with children
  • A father with only daughters like Lot
  • Families where the father was off with another woman instead of staying with the first wife and mother of most of his sons like Leah
  • Every imaginable version of family is in the Bible, just like now.

If you think divorce wasn’t a problem back then just ask yourself why Jesus found it necessary to address divorce.

The fact is that families are like they are back in those days, the same permutations, the same problems even. There’s no such thing as a ‘bastardized family’ unless you are talking about a gang filled with members trying to construct their own family out of people they know or someone like Charlie Manson. Manson called his cult his ‘family’.

Cult or not one of the things all those families share is love for one another. The reality is that families, women and even some controlling men are all acting out of what they perceive love to be. Love isn’t rational. You can’t control it. It doesn’t always make sense. But it makes more sense than extra-Biblical beliefs.

Part 2 will address the feminization of the churches and men being stripped of their masculinity in modern times.

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Suzanne is an empty nester lives near Washington DC with her husband, cats and various rescue birds. She works at a residential treatment center for children and is also the administrator of NLQ. Was raised Catholic in South Louisiana before falling in with a bunch of fallen Catholics whom had formed their own part Fundamentalist, part Evangelical church. After fifteen uncomfortable years drinking that Koolaid she left nearly 7 years ago. Her blogs are True Love Doesn’t Rape and Seeking The Light

NLQ Recommended Reading …

Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce


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