“Frozen”: True Love Doesn’t See Agendas Behind Every Bush

“Frozen”: True Love Doesn’t See Agendas Behind Every Bush March 6, 2014

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn’t Rape

You have to see this before I start talking about “Frozen”. Of the many wonderful versions of the song ‘Let It Go’ from “Frozen” I think this one personally tops them all. But then again I love classical music so blending the song with Vivaldi’s “Winter” makes sense to me.

One of the biggest drags of getting older is no longer having an excuse to go see Disney movies. I wanted to see “Frozen” after reading so many people on the blogsphere talking about how this was one of the best Disney princess films and it managed to avoid the obvious princess-y behaviors that made the older films not exactly showing behavior you wanted your daughter to emulate. Hello? True love at first sight moving to marriage before anyone bothered checking if they were even slightly compatible?

I went to an early afternoon matinee of “Frozen”, slinking in past the few families with kids and sitting alone on the back row. As I huddled down and started inhaling my popcorn I had to chuckle upon seeing a teenage boy also sneak around the theater before picking a seat in a likely child free zone. I guess I wasn’t the only non-child person in my tiny town that wanted to see the movie.

There was a great deal to love about the film, the princess Anna was being voiced by one of my favorite actresses, Kristen Bell. The artistry of the film was breathtaking, the songs were great and the messages mostly positive. Of all the characters my favorite was Olaf the snowman, who had a strange nativity and truthfulness about his being.

But on a deeper level I could relate more to Anna’s sister, Princess Elsa. Elsa desperately trying to control herself, deny who she really was in her truest form only to run off from those that think she’s some sort of monster. For me personally it was symbolic of my years at my old church, trying to fit in, tamping down the real me before leaving and being thought of as apostate while my true me emerged. Pain, isolation, misunderstanding followed by freedom and embracing who you really are.

One of the bloggers I read occasionally related it to his own struggles with depression (wanted to post his review at NLQ but he was swamped and didn’t get back to me in time, here it is anyway – Gasp! There ARE Hidden Messages in Disney’s Frozen.) I think that is the beauty of the film, it’s truth is as varied and multi-layered as our own selves. People get out of it how Elsa’s struggle relates to their own lives.

The other big message I walked away from this film with is that love is the final message, the only thing that matters. Love endures, love frees, love thinks not of itself. Not romantic love, but the love of family, love for friends. Love is the strongest force in the universe if we would stop fearing and put that love into action.

So when someone forwarded to me a review of “Frozen” from a lady that blogs at A Well-Behaved Mormon Woman claiming that the movie pushes some sort of evil Gay agenda I had to wonder if we’d even seen the same movie! Did I miss Olaf doing something outrageous or did that sauna bit at Oaken’s involve some same sex shenanigans?

After reading through her thoughts on this it’s pretty obvious that this lady sees gays everywhere and somehow feels like they’re threatening her way of life by just existing. She presages her explanation on why “Frozen” is some liberal gay-agenda piece of detritus with these words

Sidebar: Let me be very clear about one thing, I am not anti-gay nor am I here to judge homosexuals not worthy of their rightful and respectful place among society. However, I draw the line at the idea of redefining traditional marriage to include homosexual relationships, as equal. Meaning, that as a Christian, I believe that acting on same-sex attraction is contrary to God’s will, and therefore SSM should not be legalized. Because I hold this value and voice it freely, does not mean that I am trying to force it on anyone – anymore than those who feel opposite and advocate for their position intend to force SSM on me, personally – both have the right [to freely advocate an oppositional position] and should not be demonized, regardless of where society takes us, as a whole.

and then starts to link every possible tiny bit of the story to The Gay Agenda.

Maybe I have my liberal Christian blinders on but I’m just not seeing it. A girl with the ability to freeze the world running away to her ice palace in the mountains is not a representation of some person of a different sexuality going to hide in a figurative emotional closet. It’s a reach at best… and her opinions sort of go downhill from there.

Watch part of the movie yourself and tell me it has any agenda other than the importance of love. (Warning: This part spoilers the ending of the movie)


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Suzanne is an empty nester lives near Washington DC with her husband, cats and various rescue birds. She works at a residential treatment center for children and is also the administrator of NLQ. Was raised Catholic in South Louisiana before falling in with a bunch of fallen Catholics whom had formed their own part Fundamentalist, part Evangelical church. After fifteen uncomfortable years drinking that Koolaid she left nearly 7 years ago. Her blogs are True Love Doesn’t Rape and Seeking The Light

NLQ Recommended Reading …

Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

Quivering Daughters‘ by Hillary McFarland

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement‘ by Kathryn Joyce


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  • Allison the Great

    Those right-wingers who look for the bad in everything they see get on my nerves. They’re always looking for something to be angry about or they’re looking for something they can find offensive. That is no way to live your life. Somebody needs to tell this “Well Behaved Mormon Woman” that.

    One thing that we need to drill into this woman’s head is just because the LBGTQ community is asking for the same rights that this woman has always had, they’re not forcing the gay on her. Gay marriage DOES NOT PERSONALLY AFFECT HER AT ALL. Does gay marriage mean that everyone will have to become a homosexual? No. Does this mean that her “traditional biblical marriage” will be null and void? Fuck no. The world will not end if gays and lesbians are allowed to get married. The seas will not boil, an asteroid twice as big as the one that killed the dinosaurs 65 million years ago will not come hurling towards the earth (I don’t wanna close my eyes! I don’t wanna fall asleep cuz I’ll miss you baby, and I don’t wanna miss a thang!!!!!) Things will continue as they always have. I want to slap this woman and say “Bitch, you will be fine if the gays get married, stop throwing a goddamn hissy fit about it, JESUS TAP DANCING CHRIST!”

    So to fuck this woman, fuck her sidebar, and fuck the big ass van she probably rode in because of all them chirruns she probably has.

    I really want to see Frozen, by the way, but I’ll wait until it comes out on Blu Ray

  • Othelie Moor

    There is a pretty vocal group of people online that think, and celebrate that Elsa is a lesbian because she doesn’t want a boyfriend and the song ‘let it go’. So the rightwing nuts are not worse then the liberal nuts in this instance.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I think everyone sees whatever inner struggle they’ve had during “Let It Go” I, like Libby Anne, wept when seeing the song sequence. I think if it helps others love themselves and acknowledge their struggles in a positive way then it’s all good. When I wrote this I hadn’t even considered that there were those in the LBGTQ world that would be touched and encouraged through the song. It’s all good.

    My problem with the Mormon woman is that she’s acting like gays spell the end of the world, which we all know it’s true. To me just the fact that her mind immediately went there is pretty sick. Truth is often multi-faceted no one flat surface.

  • attackfish

    I am reminded of Brave. Merida doesn’t want an arranged marriage at 16 to a stranger, must be a lesbian! I mean, I do understand the desperation that drives it, but really.

  • Nightshade

    Pretty sure she wouldn’t like the gays having the right to tell her whether or not she can be married, so why should she have that right for them?

  • Nightshade

    To some people-on both sides of this particular fence-unattached person of adult age, particularly female=gay/lesbian. It’s as if no one can possibly be alone because, gee, I dunno, maybe they’re waiting for the right one, or perhaps they’re OK with being alone? Alone by choice isn’t the end of the world, better to be alone than wish you were!

  • Astrin Ymris

    Re: “…I am not anti-gay nor am I here to judge homosexuals not worthy of their rightful and respectful place among society…”

    I missed this when I read the blog entry the first time. I wonder what she considers LGBTs “rightful and respectful place” to be? Celibate and locked in an endless futile battle to make conversion therapy work? Discreetly silent about their sexuality while pretending their long-term live-in lover is “just a roommate”? Fully closeted and stoically living the life of a married heterosexual, deceiving even their own spouse and children?

  • Aimee Shulman

    Considering that the message of the film is basically “Love overcomes fear to restore and heal” I think it can be seen as quite a good message for Christians—remember the verse that says “True love casts out fear”! I honestly don’t understand why EVERYONE insists on acting like this is somehow The Gay Agenda’s Propaganda Film Of The Year. There’s no sense in that at all.

  • gimpi1

    That’s the part I have never grasped, Nightshade. How can people compare wanting to deny a basic right to someone to wanting to deny others the right to deny that basic right? It’s the difference between demanding people live as you think they should not allowing such demands to be made. Night and day, in my book.

  • gimpi1

    And why does she believe she gets to define that “rightful and respectful place among society?” Does anyone get to define her place?

    So many times this stuff is just about times changing and people’s discomfort with it. I lived through it with the civil rights movement, and that’s what I see in the marriage-equity movement.

  • Astrin Ymris

    You know, I WAS thinking that it sounded a lot like a 21st century version of “I got no problem with blacks as long as they know their place.”

  • Trollface McGee

    I know right – they argue that being denied the right to deny others rights is a violation of their rights – it makes my brain hurt just typing it.
    My favourite is that we’re supposed to be “tolerant,” and we’re not being tolerant of them which makes us just as bad – no, being intolerant of something that is societally harmful is fundamentally different than being intolerant of a person for no good reason.

  • Trollface McGee

    I think their ideal is that we’re supposed to “overcome” our “sin” and get married and fit into gender roles and pop out a bunch of babies to prove how hetero we are.

  • Allison the Great

    Yeah, I really dislike it when they throw a fit because they think rights for homosexuality negatively affects them, or when they look for something to get offended by,.They also do it when someone doesn’t live how they want them to live or when they don’t always acknowledge Christianity the way they think they should.


    This dude is throwing a fit because the president invited someone who wasn’t a Christian to do the opening prayer. He says that doing this is slighting Christianity. Good grief. Just because someone acknowledges and is accepting towards other religions does not mean that they’re slighting Christianity.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Ah. Sort of a combo of Door Number 1 and Door Number 3, based on willful denial of the fact that conversion therapy doesn’t work? ;-D

  • Vaughn Ohlman

    >>Maybe I have my liberal Christian blinders on but I’m just not seeing it. A girl with the ability to freeze the world running away to her ice palace in the mountains is not a representation of some person of a different sexuality going to hide in a figurative emotional closet.

    I think you strawman her post a good deal. It would actually be interesting if you would go through each of her points and clarify why you don’t think it represents what she says it does.

  • Trollface McGee

    Yep. My theory is that celibacy isn’t sufficient punishment for stepping out of line.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I’d have to care more about her assertions than I do right now to break them down. Screaming “The Gheys! The Gheys!!” like she’s doing is too ridiculous.

  • Vaughn Ohlman

    Well, it seems silly to me to say, “I can’t understand why she says this,” and then totally ignore what she says.
    As the saying goes, “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean that they aren’t out to get you.” She draws an interesting series of parallels between the Sodomite agenda and the movies plot points. They may or may not be convincing, but they aren’t absent.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Her parallels with the movie plot come across as wishing thinking and/or rampant paranoia. Anyone that sees things that don’t seem to be there has a problem with their thought process, which I’m not going to dignify by dissecting.

    Riddle me this Vaughn, why do fundamentalists always think about sex in relationship to everything. I can assure you that out here in regular world not everything is about sex and people don’t obsess about it like the religious do.

  • Vaughn Ohlman

    Actually the issue here is more politics than sex. And she is a Mormon, i thought.