Quoting Quiverfull: Do More, More, More To Help Your Marriage?

Quoting Quiverfull: Do More, More, More To Help Your Marriage? March 27, 2014
Because relaxing is ‘demonic’?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Get Ready For Good Things To Happen

I trust you have a good marriage. However, even a good marriage can get into a rut! God’s will for you as one of His children is not to have a normal marriage, but a marriage that is exceedingly above the normal.

With the help of the Holy Spirit you can make this happen. What are the good things you are doing now? Begin to do them MORE abundantly, MORE frequently, MORE joyfully, MORE smilingly, MORE adoringly, MORE sweetly, and MORE passionately. Get out of the rut into a new realm.

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully

NLQ Recommended Reading …

Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment‘ by Janet Heimlich

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  • “God’s will for you as one of His children is not to have a normal marriage, but a marriage that is exceedingly above the normal.”

    Define ‘normal’! I don’t think I’ve seen a ‘normal’ marriage yet…

  • Nea

    God’s will apparently is for you to work yourself into the ground, terrified that your best and hardest isn’t good enough for him or anyone else.

    I’m starting to agree with whoever said that the Above Rubies advice sounds like it’s coming over the loudspeaker in a Stepford dystopia. It’s perfectly calculated to make women feel like insecure sluggards at all times.

    Hey, Nancy – God rested, so why do you get your panties in a knot when women need a rest? I’d ask if you think you’re stronger than God Almighty, but I don’t need to, do I? You’re so eager to prove that you’re better than god. Stronger. More determined. Far more judging.

  • Joy

    So I’m supposed to do MORE good things, eh? Sure! My definition of good things though, not yours, Nancy!!

  • Rachel Heston-Davis

    A lot depends on the context of this quote. There’s some truth to the idea that the more BOTH partners put into a marriage, and the more conscious effort they direct at it, the more changes you’ll see. This isn’t some kind of fool-proof formula that makes every marriage perfect, but it is sort of general common sense. All relationships flourish when people are engaged and active.

    But I suspect the context of this quote was more about making wives (specifically wives) feel like they aren’t yet doing enough and that problems are their fault. Yeesh.

  • Allison the Great

    Ah, more advice on how to be a better baby-making, house-cleaning sex slave. Thank you, Nancy, I’ll really savor this. (/ sarcasm)

  • Jewel

    This is exactly the message she is constantly spewing forth.

  • Allison the Great

    I said the thing about the Stepford Wife dystopia, and it does seem like it, doesn’t it? It reminds me of that part of Bioshock Infinite where they go to a factory place pre-union and people are getting worked to death and they have the owner of the company on the loud speakers telling them that this is the way it’s supposed to be, this is their place in life and they shouldn’t wish for something better.

  • It’s a logical impossibility for everybody to be above average.

  • KarenH

    All that more more more shit sounds like a far worse rut to be in than just slacking off and having a normal marriage.

  • KarenH

    It’s not even (to my way of reading it) that she’s placing the problems at the woman’s feet, but that even if there AREN’T problems, she’s not working hard enough.

  • guest

    Yes, define normal.

  • persephone

    Typical cult behavior: keep members busy, keep them from getting enough sleep/rest, keep them insecure, keep increasing demands, keep them from being alone, keep them questioning their own thoughts.

  • Nea

    I’m fond of a Big Finish audio with the repeated line “Today is high productivity day” constantly blaring on loudspeaker. That? Is nowhere near as scary as the Above Rubies idea of cheerful advice to women. That it comes from fellow women makes it all the scarier.

  • Nea

    Ding, ding, ding, we have a winner! That’s EXACTLY what’s going on — and why!

  • A successful marriage can never be the work of a single person.

    Anyone who claims it can be is either stupid or lying, without exception.

    And someone who thinks you putting in more effort automatically makes the other person do the same is one or the other, as well. Nancy Campbell, which are you?

  • According to this culture, “normal” is when the wife is an overworked, ultrasubmissive door mat treated as an object to be raped by her husband.

  • I think I’d be looking for a new normal!