Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Think About Sex EVER If You Are Unmarried?

The idea that a magic wand gets waived at the wedding alter transforming a female from non-sexual to a sexual is absurd and a recipe for sexual dysfunction.

Well… if you’re thinking about sex as “baby-making” you’ve got some issues already.
But yeah, “God-filter,” I don’t buy it. Sexual attraction is a physical response that’s pretty much automatic. And what is the danger with “thoughts?” Even if you believe that you should wait until marriage until having sex, there is a tiny bit of a huge difference between thinking about something and doing it.

That’s a reason they have communal bedrooms. That huge house has only three bedrooms.

This is really sad, but I think it is the reason behind the three bedrooms. Michelle says it’s because they want to be together, but I think it’s a strategy to keep them from having space of their own and the privacy and individuality that represents.

You’re right, DD. Repressing thoughts abut sex is unhealthy. learning to control oneself and not become overly obsessed with sexual thoughts is also important, but I find that not obsessing is easier if sex is seen as something natural and talked about naturally. I remember most of my classmates and peers in my teens were obsessed with sex and relationships. As we all grew up, got into steady relationships and we experienced sex as part of our lives, the obsession went away.

Most Christians are ok with couples spending time alone, kissing, holding hands and getting pretty sexual with each other. We all suspect that couples are struggling with the boundaries they lay down for themselves though many don’t talk about the struggle. Basically, the only thing that’s kept for the marriage bed is sexual intercourse.
The Duggars don’t do anything of the sort. Holding hands is about as far as they can go, and that while sitting with many chaperones in some public place. But at least they get to court and say no!
In Von’s world, thoughts about sex means they need to get married NOW, to anyone who happens to be available.

Which is why cults always focus hard on it.

Did you know that in some Christian circles, folks are told to never read the Song of Solomon if they are not married.

I was reading some interpretations of those verses and most scholars agree that the Greek didn’t just refer to thoughts but actual acts. But then again, it’s a matter of interpretation and that interpretation isn’t the one that’s convenient for them.

That’s the “literal translation”. You know that these people don’t do “interpretations” – except when the interpretation supports their belief, of course-.

Very true.

You are a healthy woman whose mind functions the way it’s supposed to.

Yes, I combat my sexual thoughts with verses from the Song of Solomon. The thoughts and the verses do battle. Hot sweaty battle.

Absolutely. I have read horror story after horror story on other blogs where the young couple believed in waiting until marriage, and then they end up in a sexless marriage because the wife if so terrified of sex that she is unable to engage in it either for psychological or even physical reasons. What a nightmare.

I have read an interpretation that says that those verses were referring to thoughts with the intent of following through with the act if the opportunity presented itself. I personally don’t see where you can draw that line, but whatever. I guess I’m guilty then, because I would definitely follow through with some thoughts if given the opportunity. 🙂

Agree totally.

This! So much! I’m on year two of marriage and still trying to figure out how to flip the damn switch. Purity teachings are evil

That was pretty much my question. When Mom and Dad’s big public thing is “Look as Us and How Many Babies We Make!!!” how are they going to claim they don’t even think about how babies get made??

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/26/sex-before-marriage_n_3333073.html

The article is short but makes a good point. You have to scroll down to the comments to really get the “meat”.

http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1miryn/couples_who_abstained_from_sex_until_marriage/

This is the one that really has the most heartbreaking posts. I had never heard of vaginismus until I stumbled across this site.

I went to the “other university” (the one that isn’t Bob Jones) in Greenville, SC, and stores like that were the source of legend even back in the 70’s when I was there.

So in other words don’t be a creepy leering dude?