Quoting Quiverfull: Smile or Be Tired and Fearful?

Quoting Quiverfull: Smile or Be Tired and Fearful? March 22, 2014

by Nancy Campbell cross posted from Above Rubies – Fill Your Home With Smiles

A downcast face will lock you into tiredness or anxiety. A happy face will ignite a spark of joy in your heart. A miserable face will sink you into self-pity.

Put on a smile, even if it is the last thing you feel like doing, and you will feel your heavy burden lift.

Proverbs 15:12 MLB says, “A happy heart makes the face look sunny.”

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QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully

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  • Astrin Ymris

    What is it about female Quiverfull apologists and the continual assertion that denial is the cure for all ills?

    Except that denial DOES tend to inhibit people from thinking clearly about their situation, and what they need to do to achieve the desired changes: That must be it.

  • Christie

    I think that both sides of the coin have an equal importance.

    We can let ourselves be down in the dumps about everything and that is not good. Sometimes, rather than cry over the dishes that must be done, it is better to put on some music of your liking and just get it done.

    However, sometimes there are serious problems that need addressing. If you are having a very hard time or are overwhelmed constantly it is time to take a look at things and possibly make some adjustments . Just like if one has a small headache that goes away, it is not really a big deal. If your head is killing you constantly, it is time to see the doctor.

    How I took it is not to let the little headaches of life get you down. Astrin is right, denial about a serious problem is dangerous. As with anything good advice, taken to the extreme, is no longer good advice.

  • Saraquill

    Considering the usual state of my mouth, smiling is prone to making my lips crack and possibly bleed. It’s not a pretty sight, and does not lift my mood.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Lolly, I get it. I’m a very happy person who smiles and laughs a lot. Just ask Vyckie~! But it’s not because I believe it must be done, but because that’s just my nature.

    Smiling is a good thing. Honesty about feelings is a good thing too. But papering over your own feelings and pasting on a smile when you feel horrible isn’t so good. Faking never helps. I hate it when Nancy and others insist on ignoring your feelings for the good of family or society.

    I grew up in a household of secrets, alcohol and constant unhappiness so I determined when I had kids I was going to be straight up with them about feelings, etc. and I’m glad I did. Yes, there was a lot of smiling and laughing here too. It is good.

  • KarenJo12

    People who know that they can express sadness or anger appropriately when they feel those things are more likely to smile the rest of the time.

  • Nea

    Why do people invest So! Much! Time! repeating these facile mottos that anyone with more experience of reality than a kitten raised in a cardboard box KNOWS to be false?

  • Allison the Great

    Nancy Campbell’s little rules of life seem to me like things that would be said over and over again on a loud speaker in some Stepford Wives dystopia where everyone is afraid of showing some sign that they are human, lest they be severely judged or worse

  • You don’t have to be happy, you just have to LOOK happy!