Growing Up Duggar – Part 2 Foreword: Winning Souls Via Television

Growing Up Duggar – Part 2 Foreword: Winning Souls Via Television April 11, 2014

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn’t Rape

Pages XIII to XVI

“Lord, we pray that our family can impact the world for You!”

This portion of the Foreword was titled “Racing Against Time” and details how Michelle and Jim Bob prayed the above prayer years before they were anywhere near the public radar screen. They state that the prayer was also humbly asking God to keep all of them on the right track, but in reality there’s not much humble about that type of thinking as it presumes that their way is the only right way, more of a ‘use us, oh God, because we are the most righteous!’

What follows is more humble brag about how humbled the sisters are to have helped reach millions of people for Christ during the television show and how awesome the unique opportunity they’ve been given to reach girls and young women on their own, what a Christ-like way their parents have modeled for them.

Does anyone know a person that has been ‘saved’ or accepted Jesus because of the Duggar show ’19 Kids and Counting’? I think believing that others are saved through their show is a stretch at best. Truthfully, most of the viewers seem to be Evangelicals like the Duggar family, or because of the sort of freakshow aspect of the Duggars, no different than watching “Honey Boo Boo Child” or “Dance Moms”.  Most Americans cannot imagine raising nineteen children at once.

The next section is labeled “Making a Difference in Your Relationships” and starts with talking of all the things the Duggar parents have instilled in the kids to make sure their relationships are strong and close without fractiousness. How to smooth over familial conflict.

Sounds good doesn’t it? Normally I would say keeping peace among siblings is a good thing, but let’s face it, that’s about the only ‘others’ that the Duggar kids have relationships with. They lack any of the essential daily interactions most children get and learn from. How to deal with people that don’t necessarily like you, people different than you, resolving conflicts with those that don’t share your views. You learn from those relationships with people who aren’t your relatives. This is another way the Duggar way of life has ill-prepared their children for adult life.

“And then there’s the really hot topic we’re asked about a lot: boys. That’s a relationship that is frequently considered by just about every girl we know—including the four oldest Duggar girls! As we write this, we’re waiting for the young man God has for us—if marriage is in the future He plans for us. Meanwhile, we’ve thought a lot about what we want in a future husband and how we anticipate courtship will happen . As you might expect, it’s pretty different from the way many couples interact these days. For one thing, it may surprise you to know it doesn’t involve typical dating, but what we call courtship— or ‘dating with a purpose’ “

Ah, and just like that it becomes obvious that the book and all the courtship and engagement news emerging about the Duggars might just be Jim Bob Duggar’s newest scheme to keep the money flowing and the interest in his family’s show alive now that Michelle’s quiver has been devoid of new life for something like several years now. Jill is engaged as of this writing and Jessa is courting, both to young men Daddy Duggar hand picked as worthy.

“We hope this book will inspire you to let the love of God and His Son Jesus Christ empower you to make a difference through the relationships that fill your own life.”

Pretty words. We’ll see where this all leads in further chapters.

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Suzanne is an empty nester lives near Washington DC with her husband, cats and various rescue birds. She works at a residential treatment center for children and is also the administrator of NLQ. Was raised Catholic in South Louisiana before falling in with a bunch of fallen Catholics whom had formed their own part Fundamentalist, part Evangelical church. After fifteen uncomfortable years drinking that Koolaid she left nearly 7 years ago. Her blogs are True Love Doesn’t Rape and Seeking The Light

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  • Lana

    Yea I don’t know that anyone has been saved watching the Duggar’s show, but there’s a lot of non-evangelicals who watch it. My neighbor is non-religious and watches it. My uncle is non-religious and watches it. I have another friend who watches it to laugh. I’ve never understood how they get their viewers because what they believe is so far out there. I’ve noticed that the media has been refering to these guys as their “boyfriends.” I guess that’s so the regular audience understands, but they are not boyfriends.

  • Nea

    what a Christ-like way their parents have modeled for them.

    Which the girls repay by referring to their parents lives in the teen years as fallen and sinful. Nice.

    I will take religious advice from a Duggar the day I take investment advice from Homey Boo Boo and house management tips from a Kardashian. They like to think that the show is a ministry so they can make it sound pious, but it’s Ma and Pa Duggar whoring out their children for cash and fame, plain and simple.

  • Nea

    I’ve never understood how they get their viewers because what they believe is so far out there

    The circus freak show as entertainment has a long history; it’s just moved from the big top to cable TV.

  • Independent Thinker

    I want to know where these people that don’t date with a purpose live. Everyone dates for a purpose. The purpose may not always be marriage but it’s still a purpose. I have never heard anyone say “I am meeting this guy later for absolutely no reason at all.”

  • Edie Moore McGee

    I have to say that there’s nothing wrong with choosing a path other than conflict with your siblings. I’m one of five, and that’s a conscious choice we made. There are significant differences in values and lifestyle, but we choose to communicate respectfully with each other rather than fight. At least with each other, we’ve given up our need to be right. We are in the process of probating our mother’s will right now. Nary a raised voice, much less a fight.

  • Monica Swanson

    Well, it’s less subtle to say “we’re dating with a better purpose than people who don’t do it our way.” Which is what they seem to imply here.

  • tulips

    I have never heard anyone say “I am meeting this guy later for absolutely no reason at all.”
    “I am meeting this guy later for absolutely no reason at all. I’m not sure where. I don’t even know where I am right now. What’s going on? Hi?! Oh, if only there was someone to read my text messages and tell me what’s going on and how I feel about it all…~wearily sighs~”

  • Trollface McGee

    Winning souls? Winning ratings? I don’t think they differentiate..