Holy Sex – Part 1

Holy Sex – Part 1 May 26, 2014

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn’t Rape

Holy Sex The Way God Intended by Michael Pearl

I had no intention of reading and reviewing another book considering I’m way behind on reviewing both “A Love That Multiples” by Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar and the book by the Duggar daughters, “Growing Up Duggar”. Lately I’ve been approached about doing book reviews for various folks uninvolved with NLQ and my reviews of the Duggar products has slipped to the back burner.

After looking at the Pearls author page on Amazon.com on Memorial Day afternoon I saw that Michael (Woman do it MY way!) Pearl had written a book on sex. As much as the idea of Michael Pearl having sex with anyone skeeves me out I could not resist downloading and starting to read through Michael’s thoughts on having sex.

First, let me apologize. I am not Libby Anne (who is awesome and so smart!), so this isn’t going to be an intellectual take down of Pearl’s mostly vile ideas. I am someone that laughs, loves to laugh and loves to poke fun at things. This book is giving me lots of fodder for fun.

It starts with a warning. The type of warning you might see at the beginning of a Christian porn film (yes, there are Christian porn films or so I’ve been told)


This material is intended for mature audiences. Don’t read this book unless you are married, have definite plans to be married in a next few weeks, or you are an older teenager whose parents have first read it and approve of you doing so.”

What? Is the material racy enough to send some poor innocent into the arms of Masturbation Land? Will it defraud them?

On the next page Michael states:

“If you don’t think God meant for sex to be fun, this book is definitely for you.”

I think everyone would agree that sex is fun and sex in marriage is meant to be fun. How does Michael rationalize that sex is God given fun?

“The first gift God gave to man was a beautiful, naked woman”

Wasn’t that so thoughtful of God. But would Adam have known the difference if the woman was ugly and wearing itchy woolens?

Then he moves on to the ‘dirty’ part of the Bible – The Song of Songs. The fact that there is such frank talk and poetic blathering on about sex and the bride and bridegroom impresses Michael Pearl with the comfort ancient people had with ‘erotic text’. Seems like that alone might make him open to erotic fiction. Not so.

“Unlike us, they had not surrendered the pleasures and art of lovemaking to the depraved and base elements of society”

Correct me if I’m wrong, but aren’t these the same ancient people of Israel that were mentioned in Genesis as being completely sexually immoral during the days of Lot? The book of Genesis had a lot of incest, prostitution, sexual idol worship and sleeping around in it, didn’t it? Sounds to me like we started with some depravity and base elements. You can’t entirely blame that on modern society.

“The drama gives an account of the bride being beaten by the night watchmen of the city.”

Now that is something Mr. Pearl is familiar with, tormenting women.

Michael goes on to claim that most of the Song of Songs is about the woman feeling desire for her coming bridegroom, that sh e is the initiator and pursues him to bring him to her bed. Lots of flowery Biblical language is used in this poorly-written tome to indicate sexual desire and sex acts. Poetic imagery instead of more prosaic straightforward language that might serve to educate.

“His world is a crescendo of sensual experiences.”

Real world translation – Horny, horny, horny. Come on, Michael, say it with me ‘Eee-Recc-Shun’ It’s not scary.

“In this godly song there is no carnal versus spiritual; all of self is unified in the experience of marital love. The whole person — body and soul — is integrated with the physical nature in perfect harmony with everything without and within. It is only when that love is interrupted by circumstances that there is tension, which is resolved when the lovers are once again in passionate embrace. It is a most simple and basic view of life, not complicated with guilt, shame, inhibition, or cultural expectations”

Normally I might say this is actually a good way to view sexuality… but… have we not all seen in his wife’s book, Debi Pearl’s “Created To Be His Helpmeet” that this isn’t the reality for the Godly Christian Woman. It’s put out the sexual favors whenever requested no matter how ill, busy, inappropriate the timing or any other possible reason you might not be inclined to. Not only drop your drawers and jump into the bed, you better be enthusiastic about it too, fake it if you don’t feel it, make him think you are just dying of desire for him and whatever sexual request he might make.

Makes me wonder if there’s some orgasm-fakery going on too.

Michael asks these questions:

“Can erotic pleasure be as sacred as prayer? Can the sensual and the spiritual both be the creation of God, with equal standing?”

You know, if you didn’t know Michael Pearl and his poisonous views on women, children, discipline and how his relationship with Debi was conducted via her book, then you might think this book is pretty good. But sadly he’s demonstrated over and over again in his writings, Youtube videos and on his website that he’s all about control, with him as the patriarch doing the controlling.

I leave you with these words from this book to ponder till next week

“Contrary to popular sentiment, it is only the righteous who truly enjoy the pleasures of sexual love.”

What a load of sad self-deluded crap!

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Suzanne is an empty nester lives near Washington DC with her husband, cats and various rescue birds. She is the administrator of NLQ. Was raised Catholic in South Louisiana before falling in with a bunch of fallen Catholics whom had formed their own part Fundamentalist, part Evangelical church. After fifteen uncomfortable years drinking that Koolaid she left nearly 7 years ago. Her blogs are True Love Doesn’t Rape and Seeking The Light

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