So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: The Narcissistic Pastor – How to Recognize a Spiritual Abuser

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: The Narcissistic Pastor – How to Recognize a Spiritual Abuser May 29, 2014
Chances are any pastor that is a Narcissist is actually whoring out parts of his personality/life

from the website An Irenicon – The Narcissistic Pastor

So what does the narcissistic pastor look like? 

I’m a humble person, so I’ll merely recount the characteristics of narcissism as identified by Sam Vaknin (himself diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder). His thoughts are in bold.

Like I said I’m too humble to know any of this firsthand. Having worked, lived, confided for, and studied with many pastors, however, I know that it touches our profession intimately. Comments following the boldface reflect my actual experiences working in the church.

1. Feels grandiosity and self-importance (e.g. exaggerates achievements & talents to the point of lying, demands to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).

Obscures the truth about their seminary credentials and consistently makes a point of highlighting personal stories that cast themselves in a positive light while preaching.  This might include bragging about tithing more than most, mentioning various degrees, marathons, impressive gifts, and family accomplishments– all in the course of one sermon.

2. Obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequaled brilliance, bodily beauty, sexual performance, or all-conquering love/passion.

Speaks often about their visions of growing their ministry/church to the point where the giant church building will need an even bigger satellite to transmit their teachings across the globe.  At the same time, they don’t feel the need to prepare well before teaching, because they’re smarter and more theological educated than most of their congregation.

Read the rest at An Irenicon

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