Not Quoting Quiverfull: Financial Abuse

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Financial Abuse July 28, 2014

togetherThere’s a type of spousal abuse that we’re not spoken of here at NLQ –  Financial Abuse.

What is financial abuse?

It’s when a partner controls the money of the household so tightly that there isn’t any or enough given over to meet the basic needs of the other partner and/or children. By controlling all of the family finances the controlling partner puts the other under their complete control, even if there is no physical or verbal abuse this is also now considered spousal abuse.

Huffington Post did a story recently on financial abuse filled with horrifying tales of what some women have had to live through before escaping their controlling partners.

“Abusers have always been financially controlling, but recently abusers are forcing their victims to apply to payday lenders with absolutely no intention of ever paying back the loan, forcing their victims to obtain student loans and then working to sabotage her education, and forcing their victims to put all credit card debt and loans in her name while putting all assets in his,” the advocate wrote in a comment read aloud at a panel discussion.

“In the past, domestic violence victims would leave with nothing but their children and the clothes on their back,” the note concluded. ‘Now they leave with crushing debt.”

“Financial abuse, whether you’re talking about ruining her credit, getting her fired or hiding the money, is just as effective in controlling an abused victim as a lock and key,” said Kim Gandy, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence. “If your credit has been ruined, you can’t get an apartment. If you’ve been fired twice because your abuser harasses you at work, you can’t get a job. Women are literally being forced, because of financial dependency, back into abusive relationships.”

Read the entire horrifying article “Financial Abuse Takes Heavy Toll on Domestic Abuse Survivors” at Huffington Post

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  • Joy

    So glad to see this being recognized as a form of abuse.

  • Independent Thinker

    Just imagine if all those teaching young girls to be submissive taught them financial literacy and empowerment instead. The world would be a much better place for everyone.

  • Nea

    Sadly, even the secular world is flunking at teaching financial literacy.

  • Even with financial literacy, once you’re trapped in a marriage, your mentality is “it’s for the marriage.” Financial literacy can help you keep it from getting TOO too bad, but even so you may not make the brightest financial decisions.

  • Independent Thinker

    That’s exactly why empowerment needs to be taught in conjunction with financial literacy. Once a woman gets married the window of opportunity to teach empowerment to stand up to an abusive or domineering spouse closes significantly. If you teach girls to spot the bad guys along with giving them the knowledge of how exactly they can be taken advantage of it will be easier for them to make good decisions for themselves.