Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 1

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 1 August 4, 2014

preparingby Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide

I hate this chapter.  All of it.  Hate.

This deserves a trigger warning for abuse, abuse rationalization, and hideously bad grammar.

“Moral to the Story: The wife to a King must learn to serve him with honor.
A Caution: Don’t be offended by his lack of serving or helping you in the mundane things of life.”

Why shouldn’t I be offended?  He’s being an ass.

“God the Father is dominant, sovereign, and in command.  He is the King of Kings.  He created a few men who are like him in this aspect; they are kingly men.  In my book Created To Be His Help Meet, I called them Command Men, because that is their most dominant feature. “

The rest of society calls them abusive narcissistic tyrants.  Our term is more honest.

“Though men in general are dominant compared to women, the King type is enbued (sic) with an extra dose and, seemingly, a deficit in gentleness and patience.”

You can drop the pretense.  The “King” types have a clinical lack of gentleness and patience.

“They are often chosen by other men to be military commanders, politicians, preachers, and heads of corporations.”

The people who “chose” them will live to rue that decision.

Kingly men see life as if they were on a high mountain; they look at the big picture, rather than individual, personal needs.  “

Stop glamorizing it.

The King - sort of like King Joffrey from "Game of Thrones"
The King – sort of like King Joffrey from “Game of Thrones”

The King is intensely focused on HIS individual personal needs. 

“Kingly Men show little tolerance for those around them who are dragging their feet, making excuses, or whining about their lot in life.  They are men who want to move forward now – and they have a plan.  As a rule, Kingly Men tend to end up in a place of authority over people.”

Interesting slip, Debi.  The “King” has a plan – his plan – not God’s plan.  Keep watching for that theme since it recurs frequently.

“If you should marry a King, you must be prepared to give him honor and reverence on a daily basis if you want him to be a benevolent, honest, strong and fulfilled man of God.  Every king wants a queen.  He will best fulfill his potential to become an effective leader when he has the confidence and admiration of the queen at his side.  “

Debi’s helping you start practicing enabling your “King” ahead of time.  

Remember: The King is the ONLY ONE who matters.

“Being a Queen comes with pleasures and honors, but it also carries extreme demands.  It is a life of service, first to your King and then to those who are under your man’s care.”

Place your bets now as to what the “pleasures and honors” of being a Queen are.  The answer comes up a few posts from now.

If you need help due to abuse, call 1-800-799-HELP (7233) or (if you have access to a computer that your partner does not), go to

AntiPearl: There are people in the world that help abuse victims.  That’s enough for me to hang on to today.


Introduction | Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 |Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 | 

Part 7 |  Part 8 | Part 9 | Part 10 | Part 11 | Part 12 | Part 13

Part 14 | Part 15 | Part 16 | Part 17 | Part 18 | Part 19| Part 20

Part 21 |

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Mel is a science teacher who works with at-risk teens and lives on a dairy farm with her husband. She blogs at When Cows and Kids Collide

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