Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 4

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: The King Part 4 August 10, 2014
King Clovis I using the royal touch at his coronation to heal a man of scrofula.
King Clovis I using the royal touch at his coronation to heal a man of scrofula.

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide

This is the second to last “King” post – and the last one that talks directly about the “King’s” lunacy.

“Kings usually like fine meals served on time and in good order.  If you are an especially fine cook, your gifts will be greatly appreciated.  A Kingly Man is not one to help out in the kitchen.”

Translation: Your husband, who never lifts a finger, is free to complain about your crappy cooking, your failure to plate everything like a restaurant , and/or your inability to have dinner ready when HE wants it.

“Kings like to talk about their plans, ideas, and unfinished projects.  They will be very objective, very unemotional, and not enjoy small talk.  Their vision is like a man looking from a high mountain, focused on the distant goal.  The King’s wife needs to help him remember individuals’ needs.”

*Scoffs*

Good luck with that.

Ever heard the story of Sisyphus?   He’ll have gotten that boulder up the hill before the “King” remembers anyone else.

“A Kingly Man will be most uncomfortable and at a loss when dealing with the sick, helpless and dying.  Where there is no hope, there will be no need for a King.  If you marry a King, don’t be offended if he shirks being with the sick or weak.”

(Editor’s Note: I have to inject here and point out how incredibly wrong Debi’s assertions on Kings and illnesses are. The Royal Touch of a King was believed to heal and many European monarchs laid hands on their sick subjects with the purposes of healing them. Healing was considered a divine right and responsibility of kings. You cannot heal if you are hiding from the sick.)

Nice poisoning of the well, DebiMichael.

In “The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists”, the author explains that most codependent people who have been enabling narcissists start to question the relationship when the codependent person becomes ill or needs help.

On some level, the codependent person has been puting up with all of the crap because he or she believes that when the codependent person REALLY needs the narcissist, the narcissist will take care of them.

Too bad that’s not how the narcissist sees the relationship – he or she subscribes to the “King” theory of interaction.

On a different tangent, let’s see how many Bible quotes I can find in 5 minutes that refute that paragraph.

  1.  Matthew 25:31-46 (Parable of the Sheep and Goats)
  2. Matthew 7:12  (The Golden Rule)
  3. Galatians 6:2 (Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill[a] the law of Christ)
  4. James 5:14-15 ( 14 Are any among you sick? They should call for the elders of the church and have them pray over them, anointing them with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 The prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise them up; and anyone who has committed sins will be forgiven.)

Four quotes in 5 minutes.  So…how did Mr. “I’ve spent 50-odd years reading the Bible” miss those four?  (This portion just reeks of Michael Pearl.)

(*Spoiler Alert*)

I read “Red Badge of Courage” by Stephen Crane when I was a freshman in high school.  My dad, who teaches HS English, pointed out that the true moment of cowardice for the main character is not during the battle(s), or during the part when he tries to comfort his dying friend, but when he leaves “the tattered man” because he is afraid that that man will die in front of him.

According to my dad, a man who cannot support the sick or dying is a coward.

“A born leader is a man who can, when necessary, adapt the principles or rules to the circumstance for the greater good of the greatest number of people.”

Oh, yeah.  The 11th commandment…. (massive sarcasm)

Seriously, Debi just added “The Book of Extreme Consequentialism” to the Bible.  

“A Kingly man will not confer with his wife concerning the way he spends money.  If his wife “feels” it is her right to help decide how the money will be spent, she will engage in a war she will never win.  Even though she is not part of the decision making, a Kingly wife will feel secure in her husband’s ability to “take care of her”, due to his commanding confidence.”

How’s that working out for you, Debi? 

Was it fun watching your children go hungry when Michael moved to TN without a job?

How long were you suffering that neck pain before strangers gave you $40,000 to get needed medical care after your husband decided to drop medical insurance?

Or when your grandchildren were living without electricity in AZ?

How well did you sleep when that same daughter was giving birth unassisted? (Beka writes as ForeverGirl about halfway down the page.)

Are the “Pleasures and Honors of Being a Queen” worth this kind of shit?

If you need help due to abuse, call 1-800-799-HELP (7233) or (if you have access to a computer that your partner does not), go to www.thehotline.com

AntiPearl: “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” 
― Lao Tzu

 

Introduction | Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 |Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6 | 

Part 7 |  Part 8 | Part 9 | Part 10 | Part 11 | Part 12 | Part 13

Part 14 | Part 15 | Part 16 | Part 17 | Part 18 | Part 19Part 20

Part 21 | Part 22 | Part 23 | Part 24

Read everything by Mel!

Mel is a science teacher who works with at-risk teens and lives on a dairy farm with her husband. She blogs at When Cows and Kids Collide

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