by Jana, Jill, Jessa and Jinger Duggar from their book “Growing Up Duggar”
From page 136 – 137:
It warms our hearts when we’re around young men, including our brothers, who are courteous and quick to practice the fine old art of gentlemanly chivalry. Some women these days think that allowing men to help them with anything makes them appear weak, and they refuse to take a man’s hand to help them down a step or object to a man’s offer to help them carry a heavy love. However, a gentleman’s courtesy is not about women being weak or strong; it’s about men needing to be men. Gentlemanly behavior is cultivated as they learn to serve others and treat ladies as ladies. We encourage these efforts in our family—one reason being we know that somewhere out there, some good Christian girls are praying for the young man God intends as their future husband: a godly, courteous, thoughtful young man who might just turn out to be one of our brothers!
From page 139
Members of the TLC film crew, who have become like older brothers to us, have also encouraged us to marry a gentleman. When producer Sean took us girls to coffee awhile ago, he opened the door for us and said, “Chivalry isn’t dead! Let me tell you something, gals: don’t even consider marrying a guy who won’t open the door for you.”
Now, if you came to the Duggar household today, you would probably find some elbows on the dinner table and maybe even a boy who forgot to wash the dirt from behind his ears. But the goal in our household is for guys to treat gals with the upmost (sic) respect and honor by giving up their chair, opening doors, and looking for ways to put women and children first. Respect means a lot in our family and courtesy counts.
What do you think, dear readers, is chivalry important in deciding whom to marry?
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