by Karl Heitman from Parking Space – 2 Reasons Why My Daughter Will Not Go To College
Warning: One big old pile of ranty word-salad brick.
My daughter won’t go to college if…her motive is wrong. For starters, I’m NOT opposed to my daughter getting a higher Christian (emphasis on Christian) education given that her heart is right (i.e., she does not want to get a degree just so that she can be independent of a man; see 1 Cor 11:9). Many remain untaught about the role of women from a biblical perspective. A woman was created to fill the role of a helperand a companion, specifically to a husband. That’s why God created Eve (Gen 2:18). Until that happens, nowhere in Scripture does it command fathers to release their daughter into the world and demand that she learn how to fend for herself. We see from Scripture that a “man was not created for the woman’s sake, but woman for the man’s sake” (1 Cor 11:9). Again, in 1 Tim 2:15, itreads, “women will be preserved through the bearing of children.” Not only that,Paul says twice in two different letters that a woman’s primary place of business is in the home (1 Tim 5:14; Tit 2:4). This role is precious and sacred, but the church has bought into the idea that to be a stay-at-home wife/mommy is second class and it’s despised…even in most churches. Yes, Paul spoke of singleness and used his singleness for the ministry. However, Paul was a man. It’s wrong to expect women to keep in step with the cultural, not biblical, mandate. We have it backwards. Instead of championing Titus 2, for example, we champion degrees and careers. How many colleges are emphasizing the priority of young Christian ladies becoming Titus 2 women (e.g., “workers at home”)? The Bible is clear, but I don’t hear 1 Tim 5:14 quoted often: “Therefore, I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house, and give the enemy no occasion for reproach….” As for young ladies who tragically suffer their husband becoming disabled, admittedly, it’s not as black and white. However, as a pastor, I would feel a very large and heavy burden to mobilize the church Body and do whatever it takes to care for her, especially if she has no other family support behind her (1 Tim 5:3-4). Even so, that situation is extremely rare. Just to be clear, I don’t intend to demean or discourage young women in school or in the workforce. There’s a point where it becomes gray. What’s not gray is the fact that young Christian women are indeed pursuing the same things as unbelieving women: independence from a man. Eve acted outside the authority and protection of Adam and, well, you know where that led to.
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