Quoting Quiverfull: Early Marriage Best For Christians?

Quoting Quiverfull: Early Marriage Best For Christians? October 20, 2014

youngloveby Justin Deeter from Ladies Against Feminism and JustinDeeter.com

Interestingly enough, while Mr. Deeter makes a few good points on why he believes Christians should marry young he does eventually move on to Von Ohlman‘s reason for marrying young: keeping you from falling in/on someone you’re not married to’s vagina/penis. It really does always boil down to sex with the patriarchy crowd. 

Christian parents, grandparents, and teachers should encourage younger Christians to consider marrying early. Marriage is an incredible gift given by God to our sanctification and our enjoyment. Yes, early marriage is not necessarily an easy road. You may be poor, have to work twice as hard to make it through college, and be thought of as weird by a anti-marriage culture. However, if two Christians love each other, and most importantly love the Lord Jesus Christ, early marriage should not be a thing that is tabooed, but encouraged and celebrated.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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NLQ Recommended Reading …

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement by Kathryn Joyce

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  • Saraquill

    Did this man not read what Paul had to say about marriage?

  • Catherine

    Ironically, being married as an undergrad can make it easier to get financial aid.

  • Joy

    A LOT of Christians – not just Quiverfull ones! – haven’t read what Paul had to say about marriage.

  • Unfortunately, you think this bunch is going to go to college?

  • Early marriage is also a road map to an early divorce.

  • Guggie L Daly

    That was definitely a benefit. 🙂 We were both on our own when it came to our parents. Of course, we didn’t marry for financial aid. If I had known how helpful it was, though, we might have married sooner instead of trying to carry 2-3 jobs through most of undergrad.

  • Mel

    What annoys me about early vs late marriage arguments is that it obscures a major point: WHO you marry matters way more than WHEN you marry.

    If you meet someone who you can share your life with at age 20 and are married at 23, great! If you meet someone you can share your life with at age 33 and are married at 34, awesome!

    If I had married the man I was dating when I was 26, I’d either be in a miserable marriage or divorced. Much better for me that I waited until I met a man who was a good match rather than an available body.

  • Deborah West

    This ‘early marriage’ is so very wrong. Have not even read their Bibles. More times than I can count – we are commanded to have SELF-CONTROL. Self-control, sexual purity while single, and keeping your eye on the Lord are the answer. Not get married and having children while you are still a child yourself. I was encouraged my ‘rock-solid’ Christian parents to marry early – it turned out to be a nightmare. Something I still have nightmares about even 35 years later.

  • BlueVibe

    I could have been divorced several times over by now. None of them were even bad guys: Several of them were genuinely excellent husband material. Just not for me. So while I’m not really happy about being thirty[mumble] and still single, I’m at least glad I didn’t make any mistakes. If I had married the guy i was dating in college, we would likely be divorced and, if not, we’d be in serious debt, probably locked in a power struggle with each other, and I would be on permanent outs with his extended family. He’s married for a long time now to a girl I knew, and I’m sure they’re great together, but he and I would have had a rough time.

  • “However, if two Christians love each other, and most importantly love the Lord Jesus Christ…”
    Excuse me, but I used to think marriage is about two people entering a bond. Why are these folks so obsessed with getting into a “threesome” with God/Jesus spying them from Heaven?
    Also, this sentence seems to imply that you can take randomly a Christian woman and a Christian man, no matter what, get them married, and expect their marriage to work without a flaw because of their common faith!

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    My parents married in September after both had graduated from UCLA in June. They’re happy, very much still in love, and Christian. Yet, not once have either of them even suggested that the clock is ticking on my getting married. They have not pushed, pressured, nor have they encouraged me to focus on finding a spouse – from what I can tell with what they’ve said to me over the years is that I need to focus on being the best person I can be, accomplish the thing in my life that I want and will serve me well through my adulthood, and when/if marriage is supposed to happen then it will – to a man who is right for me and I’ll know him when I meet him.

  • Joy

    You have awesome parents!

  • katiehippie

    Marry in haste, repent in leisure.

  • B.E. Miller

    Heh-heh-heh-heh-heh. You said ‘threesome’.

    PS does anyone read “Naughty Bits” by Roberta Gregory? What is that issue where Marcie is having those thoughts about having a threesome with Jesus and the UPS guy she has a crush on?

    See, her preacher talked about how marriage/sex is sacred and when you have sex with your spouse, Jesus is there too. Ms Gregory does this wonderful little image of a nekkid Marcie, UPS guy, and Jesus all in a suggestive pile with a big ol’ block reading ‘censored’ strategically placed

  • ConcepcionImmaculadaPantalones

    Thanks! blergh…I know I was going somewhere with my earlier comment but then distractions and I pressed return before I had gotten it all typed out. And of course now I forget what else I was going to say. I can’t possibly be having a senior moment in my 30’s can I?! Errrgh!