NLQ Book Review: God’s Buried Children by Daniel Farcas

NLQ Book Review: God’s Buried Children by Daniel Farcas January 14, 2015
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by Suzanne Titkemeyer

Over a year ago a series of emails landed in my email box asking me to read, write a review, publish the review here and give this book five stars on Amazon. I do get review requests for NLQ on a regular basis, so this was just another of those. The topic sounded interesting, the memoirs of a man raised in the over burdened world of Romanian orphanages.

Romania and it’s people have always had a special place in my heart after my daughter Laura’s summer long mission trip to the former communist country. My child had  so many heart breaking stories along with tales of the hopeful rebuilding of Romania. There were flocks of gypsy children wherever she went and they did so some work in the orphanages too. Most of the children in the orphanages that had been a fixture during the no birth control days of communism were aging out. Her age group, born in the early 90s were the last children of that system. I remember asking her what her impressions were of those teenagers still in the orphanages and becoming annoyed with her saying that the children were ‘soulless’. She said that they had no sense of who they were. After reading this book I have to conclude that perhaps she was right, perhaps few of them knew who they are.

What I didn’t realize before receiving the book is that this book didn’t have much of a connection to what we here at NLQ are concerned with, recovery from spiritual abuse and harmful fundamentalist Quiverfull theology. I put off writing the review, it turned into a very low priority. Still, knowing that the Romanian women were denied any sort of birth control and forced to give birth to children that many of them didn’t want or could not support did seem as if it would be a cautionary tale of what happens when a government enacts a religious ban.  That does concern those of us that left a Quiverfull life because many politicians seem hell bent on banning not only abortion but all forms of birth control. Romania is what happens when you take away birth control. Every day Evangelical law makers push us closer to the possibility that birth control may be banned or restricted here in the US.

No child should ever have to suffer through a life where they are unwanted, not valued and accepted without any loving supportive care. Which is childhood story of Daniel Farcas in God’s Buried Children.

The book was a very difficult read, and not only because Farcas’ tales of abuse at the hands of the orphanage workers or his story of running away with other orphans to live on the streets were awful. The main reason the book was difficult is that it has clearly never been edited. Many wrong words are used, there’s many misspellings and large parts make no sense at all. You have to translate what is happening based on a few word clues. Which is tragic, because the story is good, it’s a compelling read that you cannot put down, but the many mistakes point to the fact that it should never have been published in this form.

The author took it directly from twenty years of his own personal journal detailing his struggle to stay alive before he found a passport of a dead young man that looked like him on the streets of Bucharest during the time of the Romanian Revolution of 1989. This lost passport was his ticket out of Romania.

One of the most disturbing things that was horrifying and off putting to me personally in the book was the author’s assertion that a Christian family buying an orphaned toddler from another orphan, taking that orphan right off the streets and illegally bringing that child back to the US to raise without an official adoption is part of ‘God’s plan’. He doesn’t explain how the family got around the bureaucratic red tape or any other details beyond meeting the boy again in America. He’s practically advocating child kidnapping, no matter how well intentioned. There are enough legally adopted children in the US who have been abused by the ‘Good Christian’ families that were screened by adoption agencies, so he’s advocating circumventing that same failed system to adopt? A predator’s wet dream.

We’ve seen how well that works out when big Christian families bypass regulations or agencies without proper screening processes. Kids end up dead. We’ve discussed this topic many times here when things happen such as the deaths of Hana Grace Williams or Tommy Musser.

My recommendation is if you’re curious to see how badly things can go when the government forces women to bear children and you have an interest in life stories then it’s well worth the read. If, you’re like me, and the mistakes ruin any message the book might have then I’d forgo it. They’ve changed the cover of the book since I ordered it so perhaps it’s been edited – God’s Buried Children by Daniel Farcas Worth noting that Farcas is married to an American missionary he met in Bucharest, Romania.

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Suzanne Titkemeyer is the admin of NLQ and also the wife of a man who had sense enough to recognize their church as a cult before dragging her out. She is a crazy old cat lady keeps busy with her grown children, her rescue animals, foster care animals and her love of all things art. Contrary to Fundy-Belief she’s usually smiling, laughing or smirking. She blogs at What Would Roger Sterling Do? and True Love Doesn’t Rape

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  • Astrin Ymris

    I followed the link to the books Amazon page. I noticed that some of the reviewers referred to the book as fiction “based on true events”. I’m not sure what the source for this information is, since it’s presented as a true story in its Amazon page.

    Some reviewers seemed to feel that it was unfair to give the book a 1 star rating due to its atrocious writing on the grounds that “English isn’t his first language”. I’ve never understood this– a horribly-written book is a horribly-written book, no matter what the reasons are for the horrible writing. If the story is so important that it needs to be told, then Daniel Farcas’s American wife and in-laws should have gotten it to an editor– or even a beta reader– before publishing it. Heck, they could have read it THEMSELVES and offered constructive criticism until it was worth publishing.

    There’s no excuse for publishing a lousy book and expecting people to buy it and excuse its flaws out of pity for the author. There’s also no excuse for using social media to recruit people to give the book a 5 star review it doesn’t warrant (as some reviewers reveal happened).

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Astrin, it’s a shame it was so poorly written because it is a gripping story. But the author and his wife went about it all wrong marketing this book by shooting out many emails begging for positive reviews and five stars . I wasn’t going to review it at all at all after reading it, they will allow anyone to self publish on the site. I’ve accidentally purchased books like this before, one which was a historical fiction based upon the life of Jane Boleyn, George Boleyn’s wife, where the author had the court of King Henry the VIII speaking in valley girl slang, like you know okay? They need to have some sort of standards on Amazon before people are allowed to upload and sell their books. Force them to provide proof at least one editor has at least looked over the book.

    Still am horrified the author managed to get into this country on a stolen passport!

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Take a look at the website for the author’s charity! Not as many misspelling but still some very odd syntax – http://www.myamericankids.com/

  • SAO

    America will never ban birth control. What they can do is make it very hard for people who rely on the gov’t to get it, meaning the poor. Just look at women in the military who want abortions (maybe now it’s time to mention the epidemic of sexual assault in the military, the DoD estimated 26,000 service members experienced unwanted sexual contact). Abortions aren’t covered by Tricare, and women have significant problems getting leave and finding a provider, not to mention paying for it, these problems can be practically insurmountable for a service woman posted overseas, such as in Afghanistan.

  • Astrin Ymris

    …which means that poor women will give birth to kids they can’t provide for (especially if the Tea Party shreds the social safety net as they want to), thus coercing women to surrender their babies for adoption. This means fundgelical adoption agencies can both make megabucks while seeing to it that True Christian™ parents get more children to indoctrinate in their belief system.

    It’s a neat way to commit ethnicide– especially if privatized CPS systems snatch healthy babies on vague and subjective grounds and drag their feet until some judge severs parental rights in the name of “the best interests of the child” and allows the True Christian™ foster parents to adopt the child.

  • Astrin Ymris

    In light of what we know about the Farcas spamming, I find it very suspicious that ALL the kids books they offer have 5 star Amazon ratings.

    None of them are overtly religious, but I’m wondering about the series about an incompetent witch who needs a child to fix things when her spells go awry. A little poisoning of the well against Pagans, maybe?

    Nor do I find getting premium parking spaces reserved for THEIR group at a local rec center such a noble accomplishment.

  • Astrin Ymris
  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I like that very much! I wish that more Christians and other religious organizations would think deeply about how to help their communities instead of their knee jerk blaming.

  • Baby_Raptor

    Am I the only one who is really put off by the way that Christians (and other religions, but we’re talking about Christianity in this case) tend to whimsically talk about how *everyone* is a “child of god,” whether or not the people they’re talking about actually believe in their god or any god at all? Most of the time without even showing concern for what the people they’re talking about actually believe?

    People projecting their beliefs on everyone else is a real turn-off, at least for me. Especially when they do it to children.