by Whitney Capps of Proverbs 31 Ministries at Faith It – An Open Letter to All the People Writing (and Sharing) Open Letters About What’s Wrong With The Church
Editor’s note: Clearly this woman doesn’t understand that what ‘The Church’ and many Christians have been doing has wreaked havoc, caused pain and damaged many of those same people that are writing about what is wrong with the Church. It’s not ‘whining’. it’s not ‘complaining’, it’s an attempt to deal with what has happened to those who are deeply wounded to heal and make sure no one else is harmed in the same way. How is that wrong?
I know, you don’t think what you are doing is damaging the Church, but that’s where you’re wrong. It’s not that your points aren’t right or valid. You’re wrong because you believe that griping about all her flaws will make her better. By airing all your grievances, you wound those who love Her and you.
You wound those sweet, saintly ladies who put on those events praying over those doily-laden tables for young women to fill those chairs. These women who aren’t silenced or frozen by a fear of being irrelevant show up and serve with you in mind. They do it because once upon a time someone did it for them. They do it because they desperately want to connect so they serve the way they know how. They model a level of fidelity and gospel-centeredness I’m not sure most of us Millennials can understand. It’s easy to love and serve a sexy church. But to love and serve a struggling one, that’s another level of Christ-likeness.
If you want to build community or grow in intimacy, just show up. Squeeze their hands. See their hearts. Pray for them. Ask about their stories. Hear the countless ways their hearts have been broken by the world and healed by God as they have walked with Jesus longer than we’ve been alive.
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