Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1: Don’t Leave Abusive Husband Ever?

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1: Don’t Leave Abusive Husband Ever? January 21, 2015

quotingquiverfullby Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy – Abusive Husband

Editor’s note: This starts with one of Debi’s infamous letters, you know, the ones in her books that she claims to have received but sound more like something she has personally written to create a weak strawman she can topple with little effort, just a few swings of her Bible and whip-like words. Tomorrow will be Michael’s response to the letter. The response of Debi is pure evil in my book, what do you think?

First the letter:

“Hi, I’ve been reading your material for years and respect your insight on child rearing. It has helped me immensely! I have a friend who is married to a verbally abusive husband. Most of your material is geared to married Christians. This friend of mine is saved, but her husband is not. They have a seven year old daughter that is a confused, emotional wreck already.  Her husband has multiple affairs with other women. He uses their daughter to manipulate situations and hurt her mother. Whatever training the mother does with her daughter, the father tells the daughter not to listen to a word that she says. The little girl is told by the father that the mother is hitting her when she spanks her. It is a horrible situation. The father does not provide them with any food, a vehicle, payment for doctors visits, and so on. The mother has filed for divorce, not knowing if this is the right thing to do or not, but not knowing what else to do, she did. It has been 5 months now, and her husband has not been served. She has called her Christian lawyer many times about this. She now believes that this must be the Lord’s will that she stay in this situation. Meanwhile, her daughter is growing more and more difficult at home and in school, with every passing day. The situation is so much worse than I could even begin to describe to you in this short letter. I know she would appreciate any insight that you would have to offer. She is very concerned for her daughter and wants only to do what the Lord would have her to do.”

Okay, so got it? Non-Christian abusive husband and believing wife. Debi’s response next:

Dear Mama, Whether your husband is lost or saved, God has given you the opportunity to set the atmosphere in your home that will bring joy, peace, thanksgiving, and love. He has given you the tools to become the most loved woman and mother on all the earth. He has given you the plan to right a thousand wrongs and prove to the world that with God all things are possible. He has provided you with a way to show the devil that God can take the weakest, silliest wreck of a woman: a woman that has given-over to become broken, both physically and emotionally, and turn her into a strong, confident, God-fearing, honoring, joyful, yes, even thankful woman. One day you will wake up, turn your head to smile good morning to your husband, and see the tears of thanksgiving glistening in his eyes as he tells you one more time how much he loves you. and how proud he is to have you as his wife.

There is a lot more and it’s pretty awful along the same lines as the above, but you’re going to have to go read it at the Pearl’s website since they have disabled the copy and paste function at their website.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, influential bloggers and cultural enforcers and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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